A few years ago, my ( 30s) aunt (late 60s) said some terrible things about my daughter (8 the first time and 12 the second time). I blocked her and my parents (60s) want me to let her back in.

When my daughter was 8, my aunt was talking religion and asked her about evolution at a family party. My daughter (who we've known is autistic for a while) started talking about Pokemon. This offended my aunt, and she voiced it to my father. I wasn't told the full extent of the conversation other than daughter was upset for getting yelled at. I was told my dad handled it.

A few years later, daughter had given her thoughts on religion. It was very logical and matter a fact in her mind (and to be honest it was respectful as well. Basically she doesn't believe but respects those who do because everyone should be entitled to their beliefs. Live and let live. At 12!). Aunt flipped again on me about how disrespectful and horrible my daughter was. I blocked her. She has been blocked since from access to my daughter, my other kids, and me. We do see her at family events, but she stays away from my oldest daughter and me.

We moved overseas a couple of years ago. Daughter is now 16. Most of my communication with my family is social media now. I post photos of the kids and the places we go. My parents are advocating that I let her have access to that. My other aunt has also been asking to give her access.

I'm still not keen. She never apologized. To her, it's over. To me, I don't want to take the chance of her attacking my daughter again. She is diagnosed autistic now as well as ADHD and anxiety. Daughter is brilliant and thoughtful and very laser focused in her interests. Those interests will most likely offended my super religious aunt.

I know I can't shield my daughter forever but also just don't care to include her after her attacking an 8 year old for talking about Pokemon because it offended her beliefs.

I feel slightly ridiculous for even asking this. I know my daughter is old enough to make her own choices.

Tldr: aunt has attacked daughter in the past for perceived religious slights. Do o allow her access to my family now that access is limited to social media?

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