I’m not exactly sure if this is the correct place to post this. I just really am seriously so upset currently and needed a place to vent but also receive advice on how to handle this.
I am a black girl, and have been dating my white boyfriend for almost a year now. I completely LOVE our relationship. His family loves me, my family loves him. So it’s all good when it comes to the people that actually matter.
My issue is being out in PUBLIC together. I hate the stares we get (he’s oblivious and I only notice it, mostly because people only stare at me anyways). And it makes me so...uncomfortable. I have very bad diagnosed anxiety, so I already hate the feeling of people staring at me casually. But whenever we are out just minding our own business and holding hands there have been moments where we have received dirty looks from both black and white individuals.
OKAY SO, what triggered this rant was that yesterday, me and my boyfriend were on a road trip and decided to stop to go to this fancy chocolate factory. We choose our chocolate, and as we are walking up to the cashier, this white family walks in. There’s a certain lady (who I am assuming is their grandmother) who looks about 70-80ish years old and is in a wheelchair.
She stares right into my eyes with the DIRTIEST look ever and says “BREAK UP!” While pointing at me and then pointing at my boyfriend. It was loud. Other people in the store heard it. I was so shocked I didn’t even know what to do. So my boyfriend and I just went up to the cashier and bought our chocolate so we could leave. And even the cashier was obviously VERY uncomfortable with what had just happened. It was such a terrible experience for me that I ended up crying in the car.
So yeah, how on earth and am suppose to deal with incidents like this? It affects me a lot because I am one that cares a lot about racial injustices and things like this...seriously piss me off. I’m just confused over why people...care so much about something that doesn’t affect them AT ALL.
TL;DR - I’m tired of people staring at my boyfriend and I (WMBF), yesterday was a breaking point for me because we were yelled at in a store by an old lady telling us to break up.
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