In a pickle here. I have this girl friend, who is in a long distance relationship, and with who I have no intentions of becoming anything more than being just friends. Her boyfriend works in another town 100km away, and they only see each other during the weekends.
I think she is getting quite out of line- and I feel like she is morally cheating on her long distance boyfriend with me for the following reasons;
1) Constantly chatting and checking in with me on Facebook. Asking for advice normally one should ask only from an SO. Like- what to eat for dinner, what to wear, asking me for rides and "date like" meetings (Wants to go to the movies,concerts,theaters with me on work days etc.) She has even sent me a couple of pictures of her in her new lingerie asking my opinion of it....and it was, well very revealing. When she runs into problems, she starts complaining to me about it on Facebook, It gets really annoying;
2)The wierd part is, that Ive never actually met her boyfriend. I know they only see each other on the weekends and then she totally ghosts of me, as if she does not want her boyfriend to know about me and our weird friend level-relatsionship. She only talks to me on work days and quits talking to me Friday-Monday morning, until her boyfriend goes back to work. During the week, the chatting and checking in is constant, I feel like im in a relationship with her;
3) Hinting sex and then and quickly changes her mind. Last week I was chatting with her before bed time and she goes something like this- "Im so loney, I just want to cuddle...you know what?" Me- "What?"...."You know, me and you we could cuddle." Me- "Eeeeee, you sure, I think it might feel very weird, like cuddleing my sister". "Never mind"....Wanted to go to sauna with me alone at her house...Its like she is probing me to see If im willing to sleep with her or not;
4) Asking me to come over to her house to help her with basic chores- like mowing her lawn, carry heavy bags of pellets for her, for food.
TL;DR I feel like she is using me as an emotional sponge and Im getting really tired of it. I like her as a friend and would like to keep it that way. But she is getting well over the line and I feel as if she is morally cheating on her boyfriend with me and I feel bad for the poor man. How can I make her stop behaving that way with me, while still enabling us being friends?
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