My girlfriend of 3 years and I are currently in a long distance relationship and talk to each other almost every day via FaceTime. Her birthday was yesterday and I completely blanked on wishing her a happy birthday. I just moved across the country for a new job last week and it has been hectic trying to balance everything so I totally forgot even though we had been talking about her birthday for a few weeks prior and she is driving several hours to come see me for this weekend. I had already bought her an early birthday present that I gave to her two weeks ago (we didn't know if she'd be able to get time off of work to see me on her birthday weekend) and she really liked it.
We talked the night before her birthday and I wished her a happy-almost-birthday and we talked about all the things she's going to do as well as our plans for this weekend. The next day I just blanked and didn't wish her a happy birthday. For some reason, I just assumed I had and when I called her after I got out of work, she sounded really annoyed before I finally realized that I didn't wish her a happy birthday.
I quickly apologized and wished her a happy birthday but I didn't think it was a huge deal (I was wrong) so I didn't really go into my apology that much. We talked about her day and the conversation was fairly normal and we talked about how excited we were to see each other and how fun this weekend will be. Everything seemed fine.
Last night, she went to the bar to get celebrate with her friends and she ended up getting drunk and talking to another girl and mentioned me and also that I forgot to wish her a happy birthday. The girl immediately told her that that was unacceptable and that she shouldn't put up with that kind of behavior and that she couldn't imagine being in a relationship with someone who was that inconsiderate. In case it matters, the girl was not a random person, she's new to my gf's friend group by way of just recently getting into a relationship with another guy in the friend group.
Following that conversation, my girlfriend drunk messaged me that she won't be coming to see me this weekend with no additional detail. I didn't see the message since I was sleeping by that point. She followed up the text this morning by saying "ignore that lol" which I also didn't see since I was sleeping still. She woke me up by calling me and telling me everything that happened last night and I was just confused and I just said I'm sorry, I (now) know it meant a lot to you and I should've prioritized that. She said that she understands that perhaps it's not a big deal to me since my birthday is on St. Patricks day so everybody always remembers and it's always a cause for celebration, but to her, it's always been a really important part of her life while growing up.
She ended by saying it's fine but that she just wanted to be open about how she was feeling and that she is still coming to see me today.
The tone of her voice suggested that she might still be sort of annoyed so I'm not sure how to interpret this. My anxiety is shooting through the roof and I can barely concentrate at work because of this since I just assume I'm literally Hitler if someone is mad at me for something. That being said, I didn't mention that to her since I know that's a form of emotional manipulation when people use the "woe is me" to deflect from owning up to their mistakes. I said sorry and didn't really make an excuse about it.
My question is, where do I go from here? I can't help but feel like there's going to be this awkwardness in the air when she arrives today. I want to make it up to her, but is repeatedly apologizing going to do anything? Is there anything I can/should do at this point or is it just going to take time?
TL;DR Forgot to wish long distance GF a happy birthday, not sure how to make up for it since she is coming today to visit me for the weekend
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