I've [32 M] been dating gf [30 F] for two months; she isn't verbally affectionate

I finally starting dating a girl I've really liked for awhile. I'm having trouble feeling connected with her emotionally and I'm starting to drift away.

We see each other a lot, usually once or twice a week (We're both really busy), and call / text regularly. We go out sometimes, sometimes stay inside. We have an active and seemingly happy sex life. I should add, she's a bit on the tomboy side of things, which is something I like generally.

We've both been in many relationships over the years.

Something's felt off though. Not sure if it's because I've liked her for so long that I have unrealistic expectations, or if we're poorly matched, or if I'm just paranoid... I just don't feel like she really likes me. She explicitly says she likes me and has feelings for me, took the first step is saying she wants a relationship with me, compliments me physically quite often, but does not seem to care much about what I have to say.

Specifically, it's four things:

1. When I say things, or share things, she doesn't react much. At best I get an "Oh yeah?", but usually nothing at all. Not even if I shared something negative from my day If I said "I stubbed my toe", she won't say "Aww, I'm sorry". Not even a simple "Sorry to hear that". It's strange.
2. I rarely get follow-up questions to things I share. If I say "I like movies", she'll most likely say nothing, or maybe "yeah, I like movies too". It makes me feel like she doesn't want to talk to me. It makes me shut down around her.
3. She never compliments my personality. However she compliments my appearance often. She has teased me quite a bit about my personality, but never said anything positive. In fact, she's specifically said she thinks I'm not a smooth person. (Lots of other girls have called me smooth. I started out nervous around her because I liked her for so long). I feel disrespected. Am I being used for sex?
4. She doesn't seem to want to share details about her life with me. She rarely says things like "I just heard a really funny joke!" or "They played my favorite song on the radio today" nothing... I'm not sure if this is a result of me being closed-off from the first three points though...
   

I tried to talk to her about these things, without being too direct, but I haven't seen a change. At this point, I usually start getting "lovey-dovey" type things from the girls I date. I'm not being needy, because frankly, I'm not needy. I don't have trouble meeting women, and she knows that.

Help Reddit! Am I crazy? Should I dump this person? Is she "just not that into" me? I'm starting to drift away emotionally without these things.

tl;dr: New 2 month gf says she likes me but: doesn't make effort to talk with me, doesn't compliment me, and doesn't share her life with me.

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