Hey all.
I met my girlfriend online about 7/8 weeks ago and met in person about 4 weeks ago. We hit it off and things have been going great. We became official about 2 weeks ago. Now, I’m really falling for this woman, but I’m starting to think I’m unsuited to date anyone.
I was married before and my wife was abusive then had an affair. I was gullible enough to not see the affair coming and it’s made me really anxious about - I’m not sure how to explain it. It’s like I worry over people changing their minds when I can’t tell it’ll happen.
So, back to my question. She works 9-5 everyday and can’t text much. She always makes sure to touch base during her breaks though. Yesterday she hardly did at all and today she hasn’t at all. And I know she gets defined breaks because of her job.
Now, I’m sure she’s just busy or may even be in that comfortable place where she doesn’t need to text as much as she did. We used to text ALOT, but obviously with everyone relationship, this slows down. However, I’m sat here thinking about all the bad reasons why she could not want to text, which I’m aware is stupid. However, the main reason I’m concerned about myself is because now I feel myself wanting to sort of detach from her in case the worse happens.
So, I can see myself holding back feelings cause I don’t want to get hurt again but if I hold myself back from properly investing in her and my feelings then it’ll fail anyway. I don’t want either of us to get hurt but I don’t know what to think or do. Any advice would be appreciated. Am I just unsuited to be somebody’s boyfriend?
TL:DR Not sure if my girlfriend is just busy or comfortable, I’m worrying about stuff I probably don’t need to. Unsure if I’m suited to being a boyfriend. Lack of talking via text/phone and unsure how to take it.
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