Last week I met my husband in a restaurant. We didn't go there to eat, he was with his friend and a woman around her early 20s. I just stayed for less than 5 minutes and then we left as we had errands to run.
When I was in the car I realized we were never introduced and I asked him if that girl was his friend's daughter. He said no. I asked if they were related or if they work together and he said no. I asked if this woman a mistress and he said yes.
I was pretty outraged and asked him if he was OK with his friend disrespecting his wife like that, and with a woman who could easily be his daughter (the friend is closer to his 50s). He said, no, he wasn't OK but there's not much he can do, right? I said you could tell his wife. He said "What?! Of course not". I asked if his friends would keep it a secret from me if the roles were reversed and he said they most likely would.
His logic is, their marriage is none of his concern, his friend can do whatever he wants, he's not his owner and can't preach to him what's wrong or right, if he messes his marriage for whatever reason that's on him.
I personally disagree with that and would definitely tell my friend's husbands if any of my friends were cheating on them and I had proof of it. He said that would be counterproductive and bring all hell upon everyone and do more harm than good, would be a nightmare for the children and possibly their families.
Is he right? Is that the best? To do nothing while you watch you friend step on his vows, only because it's none of your business and would create a shit storm? Or is it best to tell your friend's partner his spouse is cheating on him, out of principles?
tl;dr: Husband knows his friend is cheating on his wife and even knows the girl (yes, probably a college student) but refuses to tell the wife. Is he right or wrong? Is this something to be concerned about?
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