I don't know how big a deal this is so I'm posting for outside perspective. He doesn't see any problem, I think it's not normal and a big health worry.
Basically his dad left his mom when she was pregnant with her fourth kid. As a single mom of four kids, food became what she used to keep them under control. All their rewards and bribes revolved around food. She basically let them have whatever they wanted to eat if they behaved well and so of course they always asked for candy and junk food. They learned they'd get something like that if they did their chores and didn't act out. Their house would be stocked with all the specific items each kid liked because they'd throw nonstop tantrums if a thing they wanted wasn't there until his mom ran out to buy it. My boyfriend says they eventually ate more of those than real food. His mom had trouble getting them to eat the actual meals she made, so she'd bribe them with junk food to eat some real food. At some point when he was in middle school (he's the oldest of the siblings) she just gave up. All they wanted was junk so that's all she bought, being afraid they wouldn't eat at all otherwise.
So now, he's 27 and this is still most of what he eats. He mainly eats all kinds of chips and other packaged snacks. Tortilla chips, potato chips, pringles, cheese puffs, cheezits, doritos, chex snack mix. Some candies and sugary pastries. Once or twice a week he MIGHT eat boxed mac&cheese, or frozen foods like those curly french fries or hot pockets/some similar microwavable item/burrito/pizza bites etc. Besides snack foods I can count everything else he eats on my fingers. But seriously the main thing is chips, the amount of chips this man consumes per week is absurd.
What if anything do I do about this? He's been clear he has no interest in eating anything else. He does occasionally try something if I really push him but he never likes it. He even spits it out like a child. He says he literally does not like the taste of anything except the things he was fed throughout his childhood. He doesn't care about the health problems this could cause, maybe not right now as he does exercise and is a healthy weight, but in the future if he keeps this up.
Is this something I should be concerned about or just not my business? I stopped trying to get him to eat better because it was exhausting. Now I'm just annoyed and embarrassed. Should I accept this as truly a part of who he'll always be?
TL;DR: Boyfriend's mother let him eat junk to his heart's content as a child, now as an adult that's the extent of his choice in diet.
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