I should set the stage a bit, I grew up in a very "safe" household and were never allowed to take any sort of risks whatsoever and I can very freely admit that my take on a lot of situations can be a little skewed. Since it relates to the situation, my parents "fireworks" show every year was my dad planting sparklers in the front lawn, lighting them and me and my brother and sister would watch from the front room window. This is also how most everyone on my block did it as well so it always seemed normal.
My husband on the other hand grew up in a much more liberal household when it came to safety and his parents were more like...we can always go to the ER. Since our kids have gotten a bit older my husband lets them cross streets by themselves, play out in our front yard and even lets them walk to the little park about a block away by themselves. I would have never, ever imagined doing this but I feel like I've acquiesced on quite a bit and been very flexible accepting things as a compromise.
This weekend I was away since my sister had surgery. My fight was delayed so i didn't get home until about 1AM so when I was driving the kids to school this morning I got caught up on the events of the weekend. Lots of stuff was normal "moms away and we got happy meals" type stuff that doesn't fly when i'm here, which I'm not happy about but can deal with. Then my youngest said "and we drove to New Mexico and bought a bunch of fireworks!" I was in shock and asked her to clarify and he said "we got sparklers and snakes and tanks and dad even let us light bottle rockets!"
I know for certain, I'll get accused of being dramatic but I started crying because all I could think of was my kids getting burned up and/or hurt. My kids asked why I was crying and all I could think of was "dad did a very bad thing. I never want you to do that again." I got the "aww but we had so much fun" act...which of course here we go again "fun dad, mean mom" in effect all again.
I dropped the kids off and called my husband but Monday is his meeting day so I'm very likely not to talk to him until 7 or 8 tonight.
What do I say to him when I do talk to him? I can't think of any reason for kids as young as ours (or kids ever for that matter) to handle fireworks.
Am I overreacting? If so how do I keep from overreacting when I do get to talk to him tonight?
To me there is no compromise on this issue because my side...kids get to find other ways of having fun but don't get hurt...his way, kids get to have fun but have the potential to get seriously burned or worse.
What do I do here?
tl;dr: my husband allowed our kids to light off fireworks when I was out of town. I am so angry but don't want to overreact and want to get my point across that our kids should never launch fireworks. How do I do this?
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