TL;DR Ex-husband is a bit extreme in his favoritism of one child over the other.
I really just want to vent, but if you have advice - let's hear it. I'll call this kid Gemma, her older sister Nancy (15F), and their dad Shithead. We've been divorced for 8 years, were married for over 10 years.
This has been tearing me up. I haven't really talked to Gemma much about it, she tends to keep quiet about things. If she's even half as upset about it as I am, it's heartbreaking.
Shithead (and his parents) make it clear that Nancy is his favorite. Nancy is really coming into her own right now and is turning into an awesome person. She works hard and school and is successful in just about everything she does. Gemma is still very much in that awkward young teen stage, awesome in her own ways but still figuring out what she's all about. In short, I can see why someone might gravitate toward Nancy over her sister, but it's really not like there is something wrong with Gemma.
Anyway, for her last birthday Nancy got a weekend trip to a city 6 hours away to see Billy Joel in concert. Gemma's birthday was a week or so ago and she got zilch from him. I don't know if he forgot or just couldn't decide what to get or what. The girls returned from a weekend with him and I asked what she got from her dad for her birthday, and she said 'nothing'. I'm like 'no, really', and she said 'really'. Nancy confirmed it - the jerk didn't get her anything for her birthday.
I just don't know what to do. When I've confronted him about stuff like this in the past he tells me "the girls are different and like different things, I shouldn't have to treat them the same." While I agree with this sentiment to an extent, this inequity is just way over the top. I'm aware that I tend to favor Gemma a bit - in part to try to make up some for the way Shithead treats her. But I would never just skip a kid's birthday. Especially when I went all out for the other one.
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