This could be a long one. My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married for 1-1/2 of those. We love each other a lot and arguably have a very healthy relationship.
But last night we had a talk. At an event she attended last week end she met someone that she "just clicked with." nothing untoward happened (not only do I trust her word, a friend of mine was at the event who confirmed nothing actually happened) but she's concerned enough about the feelings she's developed that it necessitated us having a long talk about our relationship. Her experience has called into question if she is really happy with the routine our life has settled into (this is a genuine criticism, on the same matter I'm inclined to agree with her.)
The outcome of the conversation was several plans, each for different ways that this situation could go - it should be noted that she's made no decisions and has no real idea of what she wants, and this conversation is purely because she has no certainty that her feelings aren't going to change.
This, however, is mostly the backdrop to my real dilemma that I've come her to ask about. All of this has made it clear that something is wrong and I'm slowly coming to the conclusion that this relationship is ending, however slow and amicable that ending is, and I've come to ask if anyone has any advice on how I'm going to pick myself back up afterwards.
During the conversation, it came up about how guilty my wife felt as - being an introvert - I have almost nothing in the way of a support network. And it's true, I have all of 4-5 friends I talk to on a regular basis and only 2 family members.
So I guess what I'm asking is, for anyone who has experience with the slow death of a long term relationship, what do you fill the hole it leaves with?
Tl;dr: wife met someone else, nothing happened but it has shown her she's unhappy with the relationship. What do I do once I'm on my own with almost no one to turn to?
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