Yesterday we were all out for a dinner with my family. This wasn't his first time meeting them but we all like to spend time together, and we were planning to announce our engagement. Something real frightening happened, someone got in into an altercation. During the fight, a table was flipped over, which caused glass to go everywhere. One of my brothers (18m, 16m) instantly jumped in front of me and shielded me from the glass. Despite me being older they've always been real protective, and are both much bigger (6'4 & 6'2)
Later on that day when the car stopped they (along with my dad) were the only ones who could push the car. I usually call them over when there's something that needs to be done or fixed, simply because they know and are capable of doing this. My fiance has been feeling very insecure and angry lately, I guess because he can't do these things. I have encouraged him to go to the gym or learn. He no longer wants me to call other men (including my brothers ) over to do household jobs, but now that its hot its something that needs to be done. A week or so ago we had a roof leak, which I had to call someone to fix. When I had a flat tire there was no way he could help me because he didn't know how to change a tire, so I had to call a male friend to help. He was real mad about that, but I had no choice. When we got our new bedset my brothers along with some others had to help carry it in and put it together. He also got real upset over that. I don't know what else I'm suppose to do. I don't want the house to be out of control, but he believes this is me pointing out his weaknesses. How can we resolve this ? What else can I do to help his confidence?
tl;dr: Fiance is very insecure about not being as capable as other men. Arguing about household issues being fixed, what to do?
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