I (f) met a guy who lives in my city, but works for 6weeka away at a time. When I first met him he was in town for a week. I told him from the beginning that I wasn’t interested in a relationship at all, but I am okay with hookups. He said he agreed, but after he left for work I felt as if he was more attached then he let in. I then amended that statement to say I liked him as a person but wasn’t interested in anything romantic whatsoever... meaning we could be friends but I do not want to talk to him romantically(because I’ve literally been around him n person for about 5 days).
He continuously texts me reminding me how “soon” he’ll be back (only 6 more weeks, 5 more, and so on). I told him again today that I wasn’t interested in anything romantic and didn’t think it was a good idea for him to call me
He responded by saying that he was confused because he thought we were just having fun......but we had our fun when he was in town and I feel as though his behaviors imply he wants something more than just fun and it is so so apparent that he at least has some feelings for me. He also likes to call me, and when he does I try to keep it casual... but he’ll try to say multiple times how he misses me while sounding like he’s waiting for me to say it back. I don’t know what else to tell him... I’m a soft-hearted person, and don’t want to hurt his feelings too much, but he realllllly DOESN’T seem to get he message.
Sometimes I start to question if I’m the one who doesn’t know what “purely having fun” means, or maybe I’m insensitive?? I don’t know what else to tell him because he doesn’t seem to get the message... even after explicitly telling him at least 3 times. What do I do? Rip the bandaid off and be super duper forward??
tl;dr This boy seems to have caught some feels and may be in denial, or doesn’t understand the concept of having fun... like having no attachments! How do I tell him once and for all (but also in a nice way?)
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