The title may sound super ignorant, but please hear me out.
Every year my best friend and I plan a road trip/trip to another city and attend a Chicago Bears game. Every single year it has been only guys attending this trip. One of our friends that is a girl expressed interest in going one year and best friend straight out said no, "guys only". Last year we went to Tampa Bay and my girlfriend at the time also expressed interest in attending. My friend told me, "No, guys only no exceptions". Her and I actually had a pretty big fight about it at the time.
It may sound ignorant, but I know where he is coming from. On our trips we have a bunch of like minded friends going and don't want any hints of drama. Most of the girls do their own thing, so it makes sense that we get our thing.
This year we are planning a trip to Miami. So far, there are six of us going which is the most we have ever had on a trip before. We're extremely excited because it's in October and we all have a chance to plan and save some money.
My one buddy started seeing this girl recently. Over the past few months they kind of have a fuck buddy relationship. She really likes him a lot and has even asked him out. He has said no and has only told my best friend and I that he's just fucking her. Apparently she knows what the whole situation is about, so he's not leading her on, yet he goes out to eat with her, brings her out drinking, etc. It's like they're going out. She is a cool girl, but she is also a bit dramatic.
The other night we were out drinking and my buddy came up with the girl. We were talking about Miami and my friend (who has only gone on one trip with us before) said something that he was going to do down there. She chimes in with, "That's ok, I'll be at the bar or in the hotel room."
Now, at this point I look at my best friend and whisper to him, "Uh..she's not going right?" And he chuckles and says, "Eh, she's one of the guys."
I'm pretty furious because my ex girlfriend is still really good friends with all of us and if she isn't even allowed to go on these trips, why should this random girl of a few months? It's also worth noting that my best friend pretty much gives in to most things other friends have to say. He talks a big game, but when it comes down to it he hates confrontation and shrugs off really annoying things.
So, I really don't want to sound like an ass here. I don't want to cause any drama before this trip. We have been going on these trips for close to 10 years and it always has been a way to relax and wind down with no drama. How do I tell these guys that this is not a good idea? How do I say it in a way where I won't upset them?
I guess it's the point of it all because if she does come, then another friend will bring his girlfriend, my ex girlfriend will get pissed at me (because we're all close), and future trips will always have the, "Well so and so went last year, I don't see why I can't go this year". Any advice will be appreciated.
TL;DR: Friend wants to bring his booty call girlfriend/not girlfriend with to a football trip and I seem the be the only one that has a problem with it. Been going on trips like this for close to 10 years. I foresee it blowing up in our faces. Want to know what to say to them without sounding like a complete asshole.
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