I'm sure loads of others will have been in this position over the years, but I wanted to share my experience and see what others have done to try and get over this situation. I was with my partner for 2 years, and we got caught up in a fast romance that led to us moving in together and opening joint accounts etc. We were young but I really thought I'd found someone special and that he was 'the one'. I started noticing money disappear from our account, amounts that didn't ring alarm bells at first but when combined they were significant. He'd always say he'd take money out only for emergencies and bills, but our bills went unpaid for months without me realising. He never had a drug or drink problem, no interest in gambling, but loved to game and was spending our money on that.
He then lost his job due to not turning up on time too often, and kept that from me, leaving in the morning to pretend to go to work only to sneak back in after I left for work and game all day. I only found this out from a ridiculously huge iTunes bill that proved he was home buying music and movies on my card when he was supposedly at work. I confronted him about it and ended up in a huge argument over what to do about our relationship, and he promised to see a counsellor of some kind.
The counselling lasted 2 days. He then decided to take everything he owned out of our flat, and stole my purse and cards, while telling me I'd definitely taken my bag to work and must have lost it there. He was stupid enough to use my card at an ATM so his picture was saved and the horrible truth came out.
I've never felt so sick and used by someone I loved before, and beyond the shock and regret I really don't know what else to feel. I've given up trying to get the money back as it's now been over 6 months and even threatening legal action didn't lead to anything, and truthfully I don't want to get him into major trouble, despite being a thieving scumbag. How do I get over this?! It's severely jaded me and left me with a really cynical view of the world which I wish I didn't have, I just don't know how to deal with it.
tldr: partner stole from me for length of relationship, don't know how to get over it
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