My [44 M] Daughter [16 F] is having her girlfriend [16 F] sleep over at her mothers [43 F] house, but her mother is unaware that they're lesbians

I don't speak English natively so I apologise if my writing is not well readable.

My daughter came out to me as gay two years ago, I've been fully supportive of her and she's now got a girlfriend who she's been in a relationship with for about 6 months. I've met her before and she's a lovely girl, a very positive person.

For context my ex wife (daughter's mother) is unaware that our daughter (who I'll refer to as "Katie" for ease) is gay and also in a relationship with another girl. I can understand why Katie has not come out to her mother as she has made it very clear that she has a strong dislike for any part of the LGBT group, she also went on a social media rant when gay marriage was made legal in Australia. Katie has expressed that she doesn't see herself coming out to her mother anytime in the near future, especially as she still lives at her house one week out of every two.

I'm facing a dilemma now as I recently found out that Katie's girlfriend has been staying over at her mother's house about two to three nights a week, and that this has been going on for some time. Her mother is obviously unaware that they're in a relationship and assumed them both to be friends. I'm not sure what do to as I know for a fact that Katie's mother wouldn't let her have a boyfriend stay over at her house were she heterosexual, and I feel that Katie is taking advantage of her mother's ignorance in this case. I'm aware that they are sexually active and I presume that is also occurring at her mothers house, which would greatly upset her mother is she found out it was occurring.

I'm not sure what to do as while I would never "out" Katie to her mother, I'm not sure it's fair that she takes advantage of her mother's unawareness in order to have her romantic partner stay over multiple nights a week.

Is there anything I should do here or just let it continue?

TLDR; Daughter is having her girlfriend sleep over at her mothers house with her moving believing them to be just friends.

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