I [22F] have an embarrassing disease, and I don't want my future roommate [23F] to discover it...but should I talk about it to her "preventively"?

Hi everyone, and thanks in advance for your help! I feel completely in panic.

First of all, a bit of context : I'm a "normal" student living a perfectly "normal" social life, and on the outside no one can guess that I have an problem. But unfortunately that's the case, because I've been dealing with a health issue for 3 years now ; it's called "overactive bladder", and it's more an elderly-problem than a student-problem...but well, despite having tried numerous medications, there's no healing in sight.

Basically, it's not serious/life-threatening at all, but it's really embarrassing : while most people can control their bladder properly, I'm getting random and very sudden "urges" that I'm only able to hold for 2-3minutes. When I'm home it's OK, but when I can't rush to the bathroom immediately it's a disaster. So at the ripe old age of 22, I wear diapers and it's as awful as it sounds.

Of course, nobody knows it. I'm deploying huge efforts to hide it at all costs, and you can trust me it's really tiresome...but now I'm facing a situation where I guess it will be impossible for me to hide it to one particular person ; next week, I'll have to follow a collective internship in an autrian lab, and we'll be 2 students/room in a dorm. I've just learned the name of the person with whom I will share my room, and I barely know her...but let's say she's probably the last person I would talk to about my issue : she's quite immature, likes gossip, loudmouth etc.

Now I'm counting days and I really don't know if I should try to hide it, knowing that the task will be quite difficult (tiny room, etc.), or if I should talk to her before the departure. It may seem like the most logical solution, but I've already heard her talking disrespectfully about a friend's weight issues, for example...so she really doesn't inspire me confidence.

I know it's a dumb question, but what would you advise me to do?

Have a nice day and thanks again :)

TL;DR : because of a bladder disability, I must wear diapers. I don't want anyone to discover it, but next week I'll have to share a room with a fellow student who doesn't inspire me confidence. I'm in panic...

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