My bf and I have been dating for 2 months. This is one of the first major problems we've had so far. We're waiting a little while before having sex. It was my proposal that he agreed to, and said that whenever I'm ready. Last night we went to a party of an old friend of mine. What I didn't realize was my ex was there. We broke up about two years before. He wasted no time with coming up to me and acting all "nostalgic" (Hey babe, how are ya etc.). He knew I was with my bf and started making little taunting remarks. At this point to stop the situaton I offered to go get drinks. He walked away.
But when I came back with the drinks my bf was lookikg real mad. He told me my ex was saying real disgusting things about me and what we've done sexually. He asked me, "You really would have sex with that asshole but not me?". I could tell he was real hurt and upset. In the moment I told him that I was a different person back then, and I'd made a mistake. That it doesn't mean I don't love him or anything.
I understand he is mad, especially about the the stuff my ex said. He's a jerk. But I need him to understand that my fast willingness to have sex with my ex wasn't because I loved him more or anything. I was a different person back then than now, and I'm trying to not rush things in my relationship. How can I speak to him about this ? What can I say ?
tl;dr: bf heard from ex about things we use to do sexually. He's very upset and thinks my love for him isn't the same. How to speak to him about this?
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