Context: She is a very intelligent and thoughtful girl. She's able to clearly articulate her thoughts (especially during arguments), and can be very convincing when she wants to be. I, on the other-hand, am not so great at arguing/expressing my thoughts. Because of this, she wins pretty much every argument that we get into.
She is a misunderstood soul, and I get that. She has a very high standard when it comes to friendships, and so she doesn't see her friends very often anymore because she found something they said/did the last time they hung out annoying. I'm pretty much her only social contact (outside of her work and mom). I see her 7 days a week [after she gets off work - sleep], and she gets bummed out when I plan something that interferes with that routine. I tried introducing her to my friends so we could all hang out together, but she doesn't like most of them.
I honestly enjoy spending time with her, and I do love/care about her. I just don't think that I can be with her in the long run (for a number of reasons).
But I can't leave her, because she would be alone without me.
I think that she has some levels of anxiety and depression. She's gone to a therapist (for some family problems she was having), but hasn't gone to see one for anything else. Day-to-day she's very high functioning and is generally happy (when she's with me), but she will have times where she feels very down and lethargic. I've suggested therapy to her before, but she feels as though it won't help because "everything they say has already come across her mind at some point, so it's a waste of time and money".
I want to help her - I just can't justify staying in this relationship if I know that she's not "the one" for me.
And I want to emphasize that me wanting to leave her has nothing to do with her mental health. There are other things about our relationship and our personal lives that I don't have the time/space to completely unpack that make it difficult for me to be in.
Has anyone experienced something similar, or have any general comments about this situation? I know it's tough because this is just a summary of my thoughts at the moment, so if you have any questions feel free to ask and I'll try to give my best response.
TLDR: I'm hesitant to leave my GF of 2 years because she might spiral into depression without anyone to hang out with/talk to.
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