Together 4 years, things have been pretty great. We've been living together for the last 3. I've always been somebody who enjoys going out and doing things - social events, parties, gatherings, etc. Summers I love to be outdoors and hike, camp, kayak, and play sports. Winters I enjoy snowshoeing. Basically I'm the type of person that enjoys being around other people and being active.
For the first ~2 years of dating my girlfriend, Abby, we got along swimmingly. She was just as into all of the things I loved as myself. We'd spend summers going to parties together, hitting up pubs and staying out late, exploring local trails and rivers, etc. Basically just enjoying life. The last two years have been the polar opposite. I've talked to her about it and she pretty blatantly said she'd rather stay inside and read a book.. she just did those things for me in the start. Now it's like pulling teeth to get her to do anything. I usually spend most weekends going to get-togethers and social events without her. She never comes to the gym with me. On beautiful, sunny days she'd rather sit inside and watch TV inside of go for a walk / hike with our pup.
I don't know what to do. I love her and we're such a great match, but it seems like she'd rather spend her free time indoors reading or binging TV while I'd rather explore and go to events. I get that I can do it solo (and she encourages me to) but I want a partner to experience all these things with. I've talked with her about it and she just reiterates she's happy spending her time alone reading, etc.
TL:DR: Girlfriend and I like to spend our free time differently. I'm not sure if I like that. Help?
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