tl;dr: had a friend. Helped him out. He fucked me over and hasn't talked to me since. He was my social link to others in my masters group, now not so much. Not sure what to do and how to confront this situation.
I wrote my own lab report and he (lets call him Dan) asked to see it. I sent it to Dan for reference, but it turned out he copied word-for-word about 70% of my report, as well as most of the graphs and tables. Obviously our professor caught it and I got a 0% on the report (which is 10% of my grade) and he got the same, plus another 10% off his final grade. I'm not mad at my punishment because what I did was wrong, but was understandably pissed about what Dan did. Luckily for me, the professor knew that it was my report and I didn't have to convince him of that, otherwise if he thought we co-wrote it, we may have faced expulsion.
During our meeting with the professor, I had to say it was mine in front of my 'friend', which was something we discussed I would do before hand since that was the truth. I may have come off as 'throwing Dan under the bus', but there wasn't much else I could do. Dan has not said a word to me after we left the professor's office. We used to be somewhat close, as we'd work on other school work together, hang out and make food and whatnot.
One big thing: he's not American and moved here last fall for this program. I mentioned I was going back home to Chicago for spring break, and he said he'd always wanted to go. I invited him to come and stay with me and my parents and he happily accepted. We had a great time in the city and he was very appreciative of me showing him around. Two days after we get back is when Dan turns in my report as his.
The other people in the group know what happened and that Dan straight copied me and fucked me over. I've asked around trying to figure out why he's stopped talking to me, but nobody is giving me answers. Thing is they're all still friends with him and I've been shunned off to the side. Case in point, Dan and I used to sit next to each other in one of our classes (not the one we were caught cheating in). The day after we received our punishment, he sits 3 seats away from me and has continued this through finals.
I've lost my social life in this and I don't know how to confront him. Finals are over so I have no academic reason to see him. My plan was to ask him what's up yesterday, but he skipped out on the last class (this class' final were presentations, so Dan having given his did not necessarily need to attend). Do I text him? I really want to tell him off after all this but I'd rather do this in person. I'm just confused and alone. I was looking forward to a summer with social obligations, but now I don't think that's going to happen, as the others in the group seem to be taking his side, or at least don't care enough to include me in their plans.
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