My partner and I will have been together for 5 years next month. We have lived together for the past 2 years and have never had any major issues - he is my best friend and I am his, we have the same group of friends and rarely argue. He is kind, funny, and has never done a single thing to hurt me. Everything would be perfect, except for the fact I stopped fancying him maybe around a year ago. It wasn't like I just woke up and looked at him and didn't think he was attractive, it was like I felt the sex was getting bad for some reason, and I wanted to do it less and less, but the more things we tried and the more I felt like nothing was working for me I realised that it was just that I didn't want him to be touching me at all.
Its not like hes changed, in fact he's gotten more attractive each year we've been together. I can see that he is good looking, like really good looking, but when he touches me it makes me really uncomfortable and unhappy. I was putting this down to the fact that I really hate my body, but the thought of sleeping with other guys excites me whereas the thought of sleeping with him makes me want to cry.
I've talked to my closest female friend about it, and she told me that I need to leave him as its only going to get worse the longer I leave it, but I dont know if i can bring myself to do it. There's the minor issues, such as I would lose my flat and I would lose a lot of my friends, but the real issue is I dont know how I would cope without him, and I dont know how he would cope without me. I love him so much, is there any way to resolve this without having to leave him? Thanks in advance for anyone who replies.
Tldr; I no longer find my boyfriend attractive, but I dont want to leave him - is there anything I can do?
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