I'm 25, living at home since last September when I moved out of my houseshare. Live in the UK.
I've moved back in with my mum and dad, and my brother John (16M) for now.
Last night my brother told me he had something important to tell me; this was in private.
He told me how he'd been in a relationship with his girlfriend's dad since last November and that his girlfriend's dad has left his wife for him (although he still lives in the same house as his wife) and that he wants to be a proper couple with his girlfriend's dad.
My brother's been dating Jane, 16, since last April; she's Indian.
She'd only been in the neighbourhood since March last year (so not that long), my brother started dating her around April. Only met her once or twice but she's a nice girl.
Why am I mentioning race? This will become important later.
The girlfriend's dad is Indian, and well-known in our town's Indian community (we live in a town where there's a lot of Indian people, part of London).
My brother never said to me anything about keeping it a secret or not telling mum and dad, and I'm having a conflict over whether to tell them or not. Should I tell mum and dad, or keep it a secret?
For me this feels like "keeping a secret sucks big-time!"
As it is, John's never really dated much, only 2 long-term girlfriends and that's it (well.. 3 if you count Jane, his current one).
I don't think John really understands the problems of age-gap relationships or even the dynamics of gay relationships, and whether John's gay or not does not matter to me, as long as he's happy with life, that's what I care about.
John's facebook and Instagram show him as being happy with Jane, but isn't that giving a false impression now? (I'm on John's instagram when he posted pictures of us doing a garden project on our house, I didn't mind... I said he coud put them there).
I'm worried over the consequences of this and John wants to keep using me as a soundingboard on this, also while telling me "Me and him are a couple... and you should know it, we're an item!"
John's also shown me a photo on his smartphone of him and the girlfriend's dad fooling around wearing bikinis, John in Jane's bikini, the girlfriend's dad in a bikini, and showed me the private Instagram account of him and girlfriend's dad, he said that I could never tell anyone about the secret Instagram.
I've also discovered John's been looking up gc2b binders online, found it on our shared computer's history in the Firefox sidebar.... when I asked John why he'd been looking at them he said "I need a gc2b binder... it's a good thing, would feel cool on me, just one of those things I need. Wish I could have a few charcoal ones for Xmas! No matter how much they cost.".
John doesn't have manboobs so why he wants a binder IDK.
Jane's dad is well-known in our area's Indian community, was in one of the local free magazines for something or other regarding Indian food and other Asian things.
I'm worried about my brother and don't know what the hell to do, especially as he wants to talk about with me on Friday.
Should I even worry over things?? Is it odd that he's constantly wanting to talk about this.
tl;dr - Brother cheats on girlfriend with her dad, he's left his wife for him and now I'm worried over whole thing.
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