I am home for the summer and it seems like my mom is going through alot.
She is considering her second divorce because my stepdad isn't very involved in our lives. It seems like he has caused a significant amount of reluctance for me to be open with him and my mom both because I just fear judgment.
My stepdad and I are polar opposite on everything from politics to hobbies, and I am always the weaker person in a disagreement so I just keep to myself.
This has also caused me to be super quiet and isolated from my mom, who sometimes asks questions as if she doesn't even know me. It seems to me that she will ask questions like "why don't you talk to me?" every day. These get annoying because I feel like I have been a bad son who doesn't communicate with his #1 fan.
I want to be open with her, and she always thinks I don't like her. In all honesty, it feels like she is very protective. In previous times, if I were on the phone and she heard me talking, she would very defensively ask "who were you talking to??", or if I would laugh at something on my phone she would just press for an answer on what it was.
I know she wants to be involved, but I always seem irritated with her being too invasive. Is it perhaps the marriage she is in that has empirically held me back from being open? I know that her and I are happier when her relationship has no presence in a conversation or it is not stressing her out in any capacity.
TL;DR-- My mom's marriage could possibly be limiting my access to her, but I feel like other factors could be in play. Thoughts?
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