My (20 F) mom is trying to force me to get rid of my car - is this weird?

So, I still live at home. I'm in college, but don't have a job (yet), and I'm trying to take baby steps to get away from home.

My mom is very involved in... everything I do... Understandably to some degree. I don't always make great choices, but I think it's a part of life to stumble and figure things out. I'm getting a little tired of feeling like I can't do anything without feeling guilty, though. But, that's not what this is about.

I have this old (2000) car. A car that I took from her, specifically because she insisted on it. It would be cheaper to fix than to buy a used car, there's already a car why buy another one, I'm too impatient to find a good car, etc. I finally gave in.

This car, yes, is a piece of complete shit. I threw a lot of money into it to get it fixed, but there's still big issues with it. After getting it fixed, something with the brakes was bent and I believe it's the cause of this loud noise it makes the entire time I drive.

But, it's my only means of getting where I need to go. I have no money, no job. It gets me from point A to point B and I've already had it confirmed nothing too harmful can come from driving it, as in I won't lose a tire in the middle of the road or something.

Yet every time I mention my car, or mention that I'm going anywhere at all, I get the same lecture. I need to get rid of my car, I need to not be driving my car at all, it's going to fall apart on me in the middle of driving, etc. Every time I answer: "how am I going to go anywhere? I can't afford another one." And I always get the same answer back: "Still. It doesn't matter. You need to get rid of it."

Any time she physically gets in the car and I drive us somewhere, she starts to get genuinely angry and talks down on the car the entire trip and gets angrier if I say I can't and won't get rid of it.

Is this normal? Why is she so insistent, to the point of anger/insults, on getting rid of the thing when she pushed me to take it in the first place? The last thing I want to do is lose the car, it's the only way I get any freedom. The only way I can get to school and job hunt and just get out of the house. There's NO public transport around here, nothing's within a reasonable walking distance.

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TL;DR: My mom tries to convince me to get rid of my shitty car to the point of anger/insults. I have no money, couldn't get another one. It's my only source of freedom, getting to school, etc. Is this normal? I feel guilty for not just listening and getting rid of it.

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