My girlfriend has suffered from anxiety/depression for the better part of two years. After a bit I started to encourage her to see a therapist, which she said she wouldn't/couldn't for a variety of reasons (money, time, etc.).
This past summer she finally agreed to see one, and she seemed to be a lot happier. She didn't really seem to think it was due to the therapist though, and stopped seeing her at the end of the summer. After that though, certain events escalated her mental health situation a lot, and she got back to, if not worse than, she was before she started seeing the therapist.
Fast forward to the past couple of weeks and things were pretty bad, she would have episodes were I considered calling 911, but didn't, and our relationship didn't seem to be going very well. We ended up going on a break for a week, at the end of which I told her I thought we should break up, but then changed my mind because I thought we could work through it. During this time she also made an appointment with a therapist, which also seems promising.
She went to her first visit, and after that things have been pretty promising. We've been working on our issues, and she hasn't had any more really bad episodes (at least not that I have been aware of).
She went to her second appointment today though, and decided she doesn't want to schedule a third. She gave a couple different excuses saying that the therapist she's seeing isn't very helpful (I suggested looking for a new therapist, but she didn't seem interested), and that therapy is expensive and she would rather not spend the money. She also said she'd begun writing in a journal, which she thinks is just as helpful since her therapy sessions are mostly just her venting anyway, and she feels more comfortable just writing everything down vs talking to someone she doesn't really know.
Personally I think she should try to stick with it at least a little longer. Both times she's been seeing a therapist she seems happier in general, although I know that doesn't necessarily mean therapy is the cause, but it seems worth exploring. She also doesn't seem very open to my input on the subject, and I guess my disagreeing with her decision makes her less comfortable talking to me about it.
Am I overstepping my bounds by encouraging her to continue therapy? I understand it's her decision, but we've been in a relationship for awhile so it seems like it should be ok for me to have an opinion on it, and I worry about this becoming a cycle.
tl;dr girlfriend wants to stop therapy after two appointments. I think she should keep up with it for at least a little longer (if not indefinitely), but don't know whether I am overstepping my bounds by telling her that.
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