My (23m) fiancé’s (23m) family has a tradition where they say “and I vow to protect you from ninjas” during their wedding vows. We are getting married in three weeks and I absolutely do not want her to say this… She insists she has to. What do we do?

So this doesn’t need a whole lot of backstory because pretty much everything is in the title. When my fiancé’s parents were married in the mid-80s, her dad surprised her mom by ending his vows with the saying and ”I vow to always protect you from ninjas.” I guess it got a huge laugh at the time and since then his brothers and their cousins and all of their respective kids have thrown the line into their wedding vows.

To be very honest I’m a lot more emotional and what my wedding to be a lot more solemn then my fiancé does. Her family is a bunch of jokers and they love to take the opportunity to play practical jokes at every chance they can. So to say that we don’t see this the same way is an understatement. I want my wedding to be a solemn event that we always remember as the start of our life together and she just wants it to be another opportunity for a joke. We are currently in a massive fight over this because she said she can’t break tradition and I say I can’t get married in a ceremony that has the word ninjas in it:

To be very honest I’m a lot more emotional and what my wedding to be a lot more solemn then my fiancé is. Her family is a bunch of jokers and they love to take the opportunity to play practical jokes it every chance they can. So to say that we don’t see this the same way is an understatement. I want my wedding to be a Psalm of it that we always remember as the start of our life together and she just wants it to be another opportunity for a joke. We are currently in a massive fight over this because she said she can’t break tradition and I say I can’t get married in a ceremony that has the word ninjas in it

Does anyone have any advice on how we resolve this problem?

tl;dr: My fiancé wants to use the line and I vow to always protect you from ninjas in our wedding vows because it’s a family tradition I don’t want her too. How do we resolve this?

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