Hi Reddit!
My husband [27m] and me [25f] have been together for 10 years. When we started dating in school we had big dreams for a life together. I’ve always been a go getter and hard working. He’s always been funny, popular and easy going.
When we first started dating he stayed back in high school for a extra year to graduate. This was fine with me because he didn’t know what he wanted to do. Time flew and he was in college a year or two later. He spent three years there and dropped out without completing even half of the program.
He signed up for another college and asked me if I would stay with him for the next four years while he starts from scratch. I said of course as long as he promised to graduate. We had such a strong friendship and relationship and I was willing to be patient for him.
Two years ago he was scheduled to graduate and we had planned a date to get married. A few months before the wedding he told me he was dropping out of college again. He hadn’t even completed half of the program and refused to show me his grades or progress. I was absolutely heart broken.
He’s not a terrible human being and he’s very funny and attractive. He’s also been my best friend for as long as I can remember. He has flaws though that really hurt me - smoking pot and cigs, selling pot, hanging out with delinquents etc. He’s also never had a steady job and we have had to live with his parents because he can’t afford to move out or pay any bills (but I can). I’ve tried my best for years to talk to him about changing and he always agreed and promised me he would. Things just didn’t change.
Anyway, although I love him I walked away. He begged me to stay but I just couldn’t. My family and friends are all saying I did the right thing but it still sucks.
A few days ago he called me and told me that I would regret leaving. He’s signed up for a new program and he says he will complete it within a few months and get a good job and that I’ll regret throwing our relationship away.
Reddit what do I do? I feel torn because my brain is telling me I should stay away but my heart wants to run back. Can people change?
TLDR: I left my husband of 8 years because of broken promises. Did I do the right thing?
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