I say semi-long-distance because he is only 2 hours away - not another continent or anything. We have been together for ~2 years. We were living together but in February I moved away for work – an opportunity I couldn’t turn down. He was super supportive and encouraged me to go but he wasn’t in a position to leave his job and move just yet. We have been planning for him to move over in the new year. The distance has been ok – it’ not that far, a couple hours drive so we see each other most weekends and we also try to do at least one night a week. To start, we were doing fine and we still saw each other a lot. But now I have got busier and busier at work and I am super tired during the week so sometimes I don’t feel like driving 2 hours on a night.
When he drives over that, I am still tired in the evening and don’t always feel like having sex. It’s just nice to see and talk to him but he wants to have sex everytime we see each other. He counts the days since we last had sex and will message me to tell me he wants to come over tonight because its been 6 days or whatever. Then he’ll be pissed if I’m busy.
I feel like its becoming more and more of an issue. Like I feel I can’t do anything else at the weekend now because he always wants to stay over. Obviously, I like to see him and I don’t dislike sex but right now it feels like he only wants to see me to have sex. If I say I am doing something with friends and he is invited, he will always make sure we time for sex. He will literally schedule it in.
I do love seeing him but now sometimes I don’t always look forward to it. It’s totally weird to say that because when I first moved away I missed him so much. We have started arguing about it and I wish I could make him understand it’s not all about sex. Any advice for this sitation? It’s stressing me out.
tl;dr: My semi long-distance boyfriend literally counts down the days since we had sex and I feel like he only visits me because he wants to have sex. It's stressing me out
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