Just a bit of background info, my family are really really poor. I have worked so hard since I was a kid, and I've acheived a degree from a top university, and I've landed a very decent first job. I'm looking to progress in my career and lift myself and my family out of the cycle of poverty we have been stuck in. That's always been the goal.
My sister graduated a few years ago- she has made no attempt to find a job. She sits at home all day eating and essentially free loading, getting up and doing whatever she wants every day. Her money source is her government grant savings from the student grant she got, and she buys a lot of makeup and clothes etc. She does not contribute to any household costs and doesn't sign on at the job centre because she "can't handle going into that place". She makes no conscious effort to do anything to help anyone.
Meanwhile I have taken the responsibility of paying for a large part of the rent and the bills, as well as contributing to food costs and just general stuff. I work 5 days a week, and on top of that, do household chores, the shopping etc.
Guys, she's just soooo damn mean to me! For no reason at all! She never compliments me, always criticism after criticism. Whether it is saying I look terrible in clothes I buy, or calling me arrogant, or just saying nasty things about my personality- which are absolutely not true, because none of my friends or other family have ever described me like that. I'm as kind and patient as I can be- I never retort anything and just keep quiet. But she just constantly chips away at my self esteem. I've given her no reason to at all.
Might be worth mentioning here that I have clinical depression in the first place, and I battle with that on my own. I never pushed that issue on my family, and have battled it myself. She really doesn't help. I know I'm not the most attractive person ever, but she never passes up an opportunity to say demeaning things. Like I understand if you're critical of things I can change, but my looks and height are things I was born with, why do you care so much?
I'm reaching the end of my tether. It's bad enough the stress I have from my job/ juggling finances for a situation I was just born into. I just don't want to be made to feel like utter rubbish when I come home too. It's so not fair. I've spoken to my mom about it but she's afraid to get involved, and tells me to be patient because of my sister's situation.
I was hoping someone could help me out here because I don't know where else to go. Do I confront my sister about it and tell her to back off? She pushed me so close today, and she knows when she does it, because she has a sick little smile on her face when she sees it has affected me. I'm so close to leaving and living elsewhere, but I care about my family too much to leave them in the lurch.
tl;dr Sister is toxic and mean to me for no reason. She is constantly bitter in her attitude, makes no effort to find a job, but is quick to criticise me for no reason, whilst I am the only person making an effort in the house to keep us afloat. Destroying my self esteem. Can't take much more of her attitude, but don't know how to approach the issue.
Thanks in advance.
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