My previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/8fjwn0/mom_66f_and_bf_25m_of_3_years_expect_me_26f_to
I'm thankful to everyone who commented, you helped me stand my ground and do what I wanted. This is not a life changing update, just some small stuff.
So I wrote that post a week and a half ago, I read all of your comments and decided to stay at home.
I felt much more relaxed in the weekend because I didn't have to hurry everywhere. That was pretty awesome. Could be better because I had a job interview I was excited about and I was preparing for it part of the weekend (I'm trying to find a better job). I played video games and cleaned and relaxed :) My boyfriend didn't come to visit me in the weekend, but he visited me a couple days before the weekend, because we were having our anniversary.
My mom was sad for one day but didn't try to convince me to come, just said she's having a bad day. Then after that she had a great day, played the piano after a few years of not touching it, did a lot of errands and cleaning and ecen made food that I dislike and she loves. She half jokingly tried to convince me to come eat some tasty food she made, but of course I refused.
Btw about the suggestions of my mom visiting me, she doesn't drive and public transport is kinda horrible here. She could visit me of course but it's not easy for her in her age and with health problems she has.
My boyfriend didn't come over to my place on the weekend. He had a not-so-close-friend's birthday. He was kinda offended at first and said he doesn't understand me. He didn't pressure me to come. After a while he said I should do whatever I feel is right for me (not in a passive aggressivene like it sounds in text lol).
We had a talk about his plan for the future, which he thought about for a couple of days. His plan is to finish his university studies in 1-1.5 year and move in with me. If he doesn't finish or if he fails a course, even one, he told me he'll quit and that he has other options, much easier and faster to acheive than university, for alright paying jobs. I'm not going to write them here. It sounds possible to me. If that doesn't work out either, he said he'll just work at a simple job that doesn't have high requirements. I'm ok with that. I hope he will really make decisions according to this plan.
This weekend I'm going to Small Town. I miss my mom and my boyfriend. Next weekend I'll see what I feel like doing.
Thanks again to everyone!
TL;DR:
Stayed my first weekend away from bf and mom. Mom was fine, enjoyed her free weekend from me. Bf was offended at first but fine later. Told me his future plan for education/work.
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