So organising a wedding can be tough exhausting work, which my fiancé and I are doing the heavy lifting on. Our parents are splitting the costs 50/50. Anytime we make an arrangement my fiancé’s mother disagrees with she starts an argument over it.
I have told her before her mother has issues with control, my fiancé is an only child and I’m taking her away from her mother. So anytime she starts to break away or become happy or even make our own decisions on the big day her mother fires up and tries to change plans.
The changes are normally terrible and we have to fight tooth and nail for our plans to get through, inevitably when they get through and everyone says how good said plan is she shuts up right away or acts like it was her idea.
I try to encourage my fiancé to stand up for herself and tell her mother that the final decision is ours and not hers and that’s that. She getting a lot better at it. But the emotional stress that she gets put under every time she’s starting to flourish as a person is exhausting.
Is this something I just have to just sit out and let them work it out? Or should we start saying wedding arrangements are my idea so that they are left un-attacked? MIL and I get along very well and I don’t want that to be affected either
tl:dr Fiancés mother imposes herself on wedding plans only when fiancé is feeling happy and in control of things. Has trouble standing up to her but is getting better.
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