I need help, I am at a complete loss on what to do here. My husband was a construction superviser with amazing benefits, decent pay, a work truck with all expenses, pretty much the works. The only downside was that he worked long hours and found the job mentally taxing( he works longer hours now btw) Well the problem, he quit this amazing pay job and instead of looking for a job of equal pay and benefits he chose instead to step down the ladder. This leaves us with no car because he has to take it to work, barely enough money to pay the bills and not enough to pay the property taxes, crap benefits where we now have to pay first with the no money we now have and be paid back later, we now have to pay the gas or the car on these pay checks as well as all car expenses on a car over 300k kilometres. I’m sure you get the idea.
Now the rest of the problems, I am a stay at home mom. He now takes the only car we had so if I needed to find a job I now have no way to do so and no way to save money to buy a used second car. I do plan on baby sitting to earn extra income, but we have an unfenced in pool in our yard and for me with my daughter it works out fine, but I am nervous about taking in other kids. He is also against me doing this. (apparently I am supposed to pull money out of my butt) I do our expenses and I have $50 for groceries this week for a family of 4, I had to literally sell one of my sons old bikes to make up the difference. Now before you suggest I talk to him about this, I have. His response is to get defensive and pull out “I guess you want me to be stressed and miserable to make you happy and make more money.” Uh no asshole but I’d like to be able to buy groceries! (Sorry, but I am so mad!)
My questions for you lovely people; should I babysit in spite of my pool, what the hell do I do?!, why the hell would he screw us so thoroughly?, how do I have an honest conversation about this when he gets defensive every time? I am in panic mode at this point and honestly I have no clue what to do.
edit; I am starting to get nasty comments calling me a gold Digger and accusing me of looking for a sugar daddy. Our decision was one we made together but one that he was more in favour of than me. I never wanted to stay home, but I did want to take care of our kids. Let’s get some things straight here, I do 90% of all child care and 90% of all house work. My husband works long hours. Just because I stay home does not mean I sit on my butt all day. I also do our expenses.
tdlr; husband is an idiot and screwed us by taking a lesser paying job, help!
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