I [23F] am now hiding my relationship from my parents [50sM,F] because they totally lost their minds when I told them about it.

A month ago, during a brief trip to a city to which I am soon moving (for graduate school), I met a man [28M] who I instantly fell head over heels for. We were inseparable during the few days we had together, and since then we have entered a LDR--texting all day every single day, video chatting every night for a couple hours until we fall asleep, blah blah. I'm really, really happy, and he is too. This is the relationship I've always dreamed of.

I have never told my parents about a guy before because I've never felt strongly enough about anybody I've met. I managed to make the mistake of telling my mom about this one because I was so happy and wanted to share my happiness.. BIG mistake. My parents both lost their minds, and absolutely could not fathom why a girl like me (about to start medical school at a highly prestigious, top 5 university) has fallen for someone like him, who they think is not good enough for me because he is an aspiring musician. After several days of fighting for him and begging them to give him a chance, I realized my parents would never come around to the idea of me being with him, so I lied to them and told them I cut contact. I've always pictured myself with a musician, so I couldn't be more proud of being with him for what it's worth.

Reddit, I feel totally stuck. No part of me will consider ever breaking up with him for the sake of my parents, but my parents have sacrificed so , so much for me in their lives (I come from an immigrant family) that I feel so incredibly guilty being in a relationship that they will never approve of. Even more so, I think they'd lose all trust in me if they were to find out he and I continued dating after I told them it was over. My parents love me more than anything, but my dad said such cruel and harsh things about this guy that I think if he were to find out he would disown me. I owe my parents the world, and I see their perspective, but I'm having a hard time putting aside my guilt and allowing myself to be totally happy in this relationship.

tl;dr: My parents think very highly of me because I have a bright future and am starting medical school, so they lost their minds when I began seriously dating a musician. Now, I am feeling immense amounts of guilt for lying to my parents even though I have never been happier than I have been in this relationship.

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