I recently got promoted to a position at my company in a department different from the one I was previously in. I love it! It’s interesting work, a great boss, a significant pay increase, more opportunities to learn and advance, and really nice coworkers…except for one. Everyone in my new group has been welcoming and pleasant to work with so far, they really value my input and are just so nice! But this one woman, Susie, has been rude to me since I started here a few weeks ago. I used to see her around the building and we would always smile at each other and say hello, and I just assumed she was nice. I didn’t know her any more than that. But now, she’s rude to me and even kind of hostile every time I see her or interact with her. Last week I was loading paper into the printer and she snapped at me while I was positioning the paper in the tray that I was “doing it wrong” and grabbed the paper out of my hand to put it in the tray. (I wasn’t doing it wrong, just positioning the ream so it would fit.) I just said thank you and let her do her thing. This morning my boss asked her and I to coordinate catering lunch for a meeting today and I went over to her cube and smiled, said good morning, and asked about setting up catering. She didn’t even look at me or say good morning, just snapped that we needed to wait for another coworker to arrive. These are just come examples. Even when I see her around now she doesn’t smile even though I do or even really acknowledge me. In meetings she’s rude or ignores me. I’ve tried to be really positive and pleasant but also not overly eager in this new role, and I think everyone except this woman likes me. My new boss has given me great feedback and overall I am really enjoying this new group. It’s worth noting that I am by far the youngest person in this group, by 10 years to one coworker, and then about at least a 20 year age gap to everyone else. Maybe she thinks I’m just young and ditzy and not worth her time? She seems really friendly and nice with everyone else.
I don’t get it, because I’ve never done anything to Susie or really interacted with her at all in the past more than smiles in the hallway every now and then. I would hate to have this issue create hurdles for either of us doing our jobs in the future, as our positions do require some coordination. Our cubes are also right next to each other, so it’s not exactly ideal to have someone be hostile when you are in close proximity every day. Is there something I might be unaware of that I’m doing to annoy this woman? Or a way I could smooth things over a bit?
TL;DR: New coworker is rude and dismissive seemingly for no reason. Any way to resolve this without creating a whole production?
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