So over the weekend my husband and I threw a party for friends. We invited long time friends and new friends, it was a pretty good party but some stuff happened I wasn't completely aware of.
I spent the majority of the party with my friends, not very near my husband as I wasn't watching him and didn't feel the need to. He has never shown any sort of desire to cheat or heavy flirting before.
So most of this is what I've been told because honestly I was drunk and not aware. My husband was seen with another girl at the party, A LOT. We will call her S. She came with a friend of his who I will call J, as a date. J has only been dating S about a month and they aren't exclusive. J was very bothered by the way S ignored him for my husband, J told me this after the party.
So from what people have told me they saw my husband, flirting, touching, talking close, winking and even in a secluded spot with this girl throughout the party. I guess I did see them together but they were in a group and laughing..I didn't think anything of it. 4 people from the party have come to me to tell me about what my husband was doing. 2 told me the night of, and another 2 called me the next morning.
The next day after hearing all of this I confronted my husband. First I was kind of making light of it and said "...so S is pretty hot, I think you noticed haha" and he was upset and started telling me he was free to talk to whoever he wanted blah blah blah. He seemed defensive and I was hungover and still didn't really feel the effects since I didn't witness those things. I brushed it off.
Yesterday I brought it up again. I told him I processed it and I believe what people told me and it makes me uncomfortable and hurt. He was calm and rational and told me that people are misrepresenting what was happening. He was so adamant about it and reassuring. Now I'm confused.
I believe my friends but I also believe him! It know those things contradict each other but I am so lost! This is unprecedented and he has never done anything to make me question his loyalty. My friends have never said anything about him and they even said it was strange since they thought he was so great.
Should I be worried? Should I trust him? We have been talking about moving to another city together (away from everyone we know) and this worries me.
Has anyone had this sort of thing happen and have any insight? I know it's a weird situation but I can't be the only one.
I'm not looking for extreme answers like "GET DIVORCED NOW" I need some actual advice. Please consider that we are real people, and have been together and happy for almost 7 years.
TL;DR...husband acted shady at a party with another girl but I was unaware until friends told me what they saw. I'm lost because I trust him but also trust my friends.
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