About a year ago, I invited the new girl at work to my gym. I had been into powerlifting for some time, and she wanted to lose weight. Since people seem to get bored with the goal of simply "losing weight" I thought that maybe helping her to become stronger would boost her confidence and give her other health-focused goals that she might benefit from. So she started going to my gym and has been going ever since.
She is a good person; one of the nicest people around, but she does struggle with some psychological issues (depression, bipolar, etc). Before I go any further, I just want to say that I don't wish her any distress and would never bring this up at work or in the gym; I have kept this to myself other than my vent on here.
I started becoming annoyed with her when I realized that her sense of self worth seems to be derived completely externally. If she misses a lift, she cries. If she isn't on par with the other women in her weight class, she gets really mopey and fishes for validation. I am not one to coddle anybody; indeed I detest it. She says things like," I just need someone to tell me that I am worth it and can do this." I'm like,"Dude! It's powerlifting. It's supposed to be fun. Not your whole life. You're fine." I don't do well with emotional neediness.
There have also been some intrusive behaviors coming from her (filming me workout when I haven't asked her to, trying to be overly supportive and in turn, just making herself seem pretty unstable (i.e.: I mentioned that some girl had flirted with my ex-husband many years ago, and she starts sending me all these vengeful memes pertaining to that girl, when I have since forgiven/almost forgotten that person).
A few months ago, I deleted everyone from work off of my social media. I just wanted to separate those two facets of my life. I decided, the other day, that I want to block her as well. I can act normal/not awkward around her at work and the gym, but I just don't dig having her in my circle anymore. I DID tell her right before I deleted her; I said "no hard feelings, but I am deleting more people off ig." I saw her at work in passing and she gave me this DEATH stare, like I broke up with her. It was creepy.
I don't feel bad about my decision, but I am wondering... should I feel bad? What would you have done?
TL;DR: Dumped a coworker friend due to her being intrusive/emotionally needy. I am wondering if I did the right thing.
[link] [comments]
from Relationships https://ift.tt/2G6q0D7
No comments:
Post a Comment