Hello everyone, I am not sure if I have followed the format correctly but to be sure I am a 65 year old man in England with a 59 year old wife with me in England but born in India.
We have been together for the last decade. We met each other around five years after my first wife passed, and she helped me cope through it all as she was my rock. My sons and grandchildren all accepted her and we have had a very happy time together, a loving marriage that has gotten us through financial difficulties and other problems along the way.
I am from a time and family where we do not express our feelings very openly and so I am finding this difficult but after being directed here by my grandson I feel this would be a good way to get other viewpoints. My wife is not very well, she has the beginnings of dementia and it is becoming a very big concern for us all. I worry most about her safety and health but there is also the concern regarding medical aids and the costs of hiring a carer for when I am not around. I do not begrudge the costs whatsoever but I worry I will not be able to provide enough when it is most needed.
I fear that I will not be strong enough, and I absolutely fear the concept of losing another person so close to me. I want to be strong and make everyone feel at ease but I do not know how to best cope with the situation and how to deal with the feelings that come with it. I appreciate from reading that most of the readers and commenters here are younger than myself and may not have experienced this situation, but I would still appreciate any feedback. I have put off counselling for too long, and I will look into that, but I do want other opinions too. Thank you for reading.
tldr too long didn't read - I worry that I will lose my wife to dementia and that I am not strong enough to cope.
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