Throwaway because she (23F) is a redditor as well.
Partner and I met in school about 3 years ago. We started dating pretty quickly after we met. Things were great. I graduated first, moved a few states over, when she finished she followed me. Fast forward two years later, we're together, living together as well but I'm not sure what's next.
She owns part of and helps out with the family business that's been handed down for generations. Her full time job is something that she could do anywhere. I believe that in her heart she wants to go back and take the business over when her dad retires, despite it not being a very female friendly industry. She's an only child so the business would either be passed down to her or be sold (I think?)
Her family lives in a small town about 6 hours from where we live. She regularly goes back home during crucial times to help with operations. I traditionally have no issues with it, i'm often invited and her family is great. Some of the times she goes home are frustrating, since it's typically around my birthday and summer holidays.
Unfortunately there are no career opportunities in my field anywhere near her hometown. I work in a university setting in a pretty niche position. I'm at the point in my career where I'll be looking for the next step and that will likely mean moving further from her home. I want to be supportive of her family business and her desire to remain engaged with it and potentially take it over. But I do not want to sacrifice my career opportunities either. Ideally, we'd be able to find something that worked for both of us - but it would be virtually impossible for us to live in her rural town and me to continue my career since the closest university is 2.5 hours away.
I was recently presented with an opportunity to apply for a job. Unfortunately the job would put her more than a days drive from home, which would significantly hinder her ability to be involved in the family business.
I know that I need to have an honest discussion with her about what her future goals and desire are, but I'm not sure how to have that conversation and how to balance my goals with her goals.
I'd love to have some advice! I'll be happy to answer any clarifying questions as well.
**TL;DR
Girlfriends family has a family business that will likely be passed down to her. Location does not fit with my career opportunities. I am looking for next steps in my career, and that involves moving further from the family business. Not sure how to proceed with relationship/conversation**
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