So I love my girlfriend, she’s amazing and we’ve been together almost two years and I’ve loved every second of it. Before we started dating, we were hooking up fairly regularly for about a month, but we both knew that we weren’t exclusive or anything like that. During this time I had sex with another girl, it was completely meaningless and it was just a one time thing.
However, about 9 months into our relationship she found about it from a mutual friend and was VERY upset. She claimed that I lied to her ( I never lied to her directly although I did intentionally not tell her about this which I know is dishonest and shitty.) Anyway we talked about it and decided to move past it, I apologized and told her I regret hooking up with the girl and that I’ll never be dishonest again (all of which is true) and we kind of just moved on.
Recently she has been bringing it up more and more frequently during arguments to say that she can’t trust me about certain things. For example, I wanted to go to a bar with a couple of my friends and she didn’t want me to go and brought up that incident as a reason why she can’t trust me to go.
Am I in the wrong for telling her to let it go? It’s been almost two years since the incident occurred and about one year since she found out. Since that time I have every effort to try to rebuild trust, I always make sure she knows exactly where I am and who I’m with and what I’m doing, I told her she has an open door policy to look at my phone because I seriously have nothing to hide. She hasn’t really taken advantage of that, I think she knows that I wouldn’t do anything sketchy on social media or text or something. She just has a lot of reservations about me going out. I just want to know is this a normal reaction? Keep in mind I never cheated on her and I never would, the only thing I did that was wrong was keeping it from her. Am I an asshole by wanting her to let it go and move on?
TL;DR: My girlfriend can’t trust me because I kept a hookup from her that occurred two weeks before we started dating.
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