My boyfriend and I have always had an active sex life and we used to have it daily. We’ve been together almost 4 years and have lived together for 3.
He’s always horny. Even when he’s tired he still wants it. Of course I love having sex but I don’t feel the need to have it for the sake of it every day, my sex drive isn’t as crazy as his 24/7.
We have sex now probably every other day. It gets too routine doing it every day for me and I found myself doing it when I didn’t really want to just to please him. So I started telling him I wasn’t in the mood or didn’t want to sometimes. He would ask me for sex when I was just chilling watching tv and relaxing and I just didn’t feel in the mood for it but he would make comments saying I’m boring and I never used to be like this and clearly you don’t want me or enjoy sex with me, sort yourself out etc. I’m sitting watching tv and we will be watching the least sexy tv show (haha) and he will turn to me and ask me to take my trousers off and I’ve tried explaining that that doesn’t really get me in the mood.
I explain to him we have sex regularly. Still every other day is probably a lot more than other couples have it. It became like routine in the morning first thing he would wake me up by putting his hands down my pants and before bed it would be expected. If I don’t do it he gets annoyed and starts making comments.
And he’s always saying to me I wish you liked having sex, you don’t seem interested in it you never try it on with me. He’s even said you must be getting it elsewhere!
I do try it on and initiate it, I just don’t get chance to much as he’s there wanting it.
I’ve got a lot going on at the minute and sex isn’t really on my mind right now I’m coming to the end of my university course and the pressure is on with uni work so that’s on my mind a lot too. I find myself doing it to please him still sometimes but not like I used to.
I don’t know what I’m asking really but is there anything I can do or say to reassure him that I do enjoy it I just don’t feel the need to have it daily and I just kind of want him to leave me alone and stop making me feel bad for saying no.
Since if started saying no rather than yes all the time he said he’s not asking me again.
TL;DR: boyfriend wants sex all the time, I don’t feel in the mood all the time. He questions why I don’t like it and why I don’t want him and makes me feel bad for saying no.
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