My mother can be really difficult. For whatever reason, she’s always been a snide and condescending person ever since I can remember. It could be ‘hard love’, it could be her rougher upbringing, or perhaps shes just bitter about giving up her career for marriage, I don’t know, but I’ve managed to get along with her quite well for the last 10 years; maybe because I’ve gotten older and learnt how to deflect her negging.
In comes my girlfriend. She has a good heart but a hot head. I’ve always been honest with her about my mother’s negging and that the way around it is to just take what she says with a light heart. However she refuses to play nice and insisted that she would retaliate, in the name of pride and dignity, the next time my mother throws out another backhanded remark. While I understand where shes coming from, this would end badly because i know for a fact that my mother is not one to back down from a fight.
Theres this one time, my gf shaved the side of her head short. I’m ok with it, it looks badass, but it didn’t sit well with my more conservative mother. She then proceeded to laugh at her look and told me behind her back that shes a bad fit for me by conjuring up plenty of scenarios in which she’ll get bored and dump me.
I can see this morphing into some kind of “if you pick her then you’ll be dead to me” type of scenario. I really don’t want to choose between my girlfriend and my mother. What do i do?
Tl;dr: mom and gf are both feisty women. i love both of them and it would kill me to have to pick one.
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