My father passed away unexpectedly while working on his car when something went wrong with the wiring and it set on fire. He recently had lung surgery due to cancer and the fire Marshall said his lungs probably couldn't take the smoke.
My boyfriend at the time was very supportful and loving- we had been together three months but talked about moving in and our future together. We discussed how we felt like we've known each other forever. Last Friday I met his mother before he went on a family trip. When he came back we went on a hike like everything was normal. He pulled me aside afterwards and said that he was grateful to have known me and still cared about me and would support me but not as a boyfriend. I was very confused and devastated as there had not been any indication of this to come. He works one week on and one week off and said he wanted more time for himself, yet said I didn't interfere with that now.
After a couple days of not talking too much I asked him to drop my key off at my apartment. We went on a hike because I was laying on my couch in the dark and he said this would be good for me. I cried the whole time and he hugged me a couple of times. When we got back to my apartment he and I cried and hugged and he said he just couldn't be in a relationship right now but that he cared about me.
This morning I was very sad and asked him for advice on something regarding family. He called me and said that he wanted to be my best friend and help me work through my grief as this was partly his fault. He said that even though he needed a break and needed to focus on his life, it didn't mean I couldn't be in his.
I'm quite overwhelmed with both traumas at the moment and don't know if talking to him and being around him is the right thing to do. While part of me wants to not lose him as a friend, I'm also very guarded as he broke my heart. I also don't understand his intentions as he keeps giving me different reasons for not wanting to be with me. Thanks for taking the time to read.
TL;DR my dad died, my boyfriend broke up with me but wants to help me through the grief process. Don't know what to do.
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