The title pretty much sums it up. We’ve been together for over 3 years and we’re planning to move in together soon. I’m 27 weeks pregnant and yesterday he told me he was done with me. His ex (who he has a kid with) found out I was pregnant somehow and got pissed off at him. He’s going back to her I guess? I don’t know - but that’s what it seems like. This all happened so fast! His parents, who I’ve never met, didn’t even know I was pregnant. He lied and told me that he told them Sunday evening, so I texted them (I got their number off white pages) yesterday (Monday) to offer them a chance to be in this baby’s life...he had lied. They had NO CLUE I was pregnant or who I was...I’ve never met them before.
I honestly don’t know what to do. He has blocked me on everything...refuses to speak to me. I don’t care if we aren’t together (although my heart is absolutely breaking into a million pieces) but I wanted to try and figure out what happens now...he always said he wanted to be in our baby’s life...but now I don’t know?
What do I do now? I just want to talk to him and figure this out. My pregnancy is very high risk - I’m currently in the hospital on extremely strict bedrest until 36 weeks. All of our communication was over the phone until he blocked me. He didn’t even have the decency to say any of this to my face. I am so incredibly stressed out, having frequent panic attacks...I’m staying hydrated because I’m on an IV - but when I try to eat nothing stays down. They are going to start me on Zofran (anti nausea) here in a bit I guess - but I don’t know if it will help. I’m sick to my stomach with heartbreak and fear of what is going to happen now.
I hate not knowing what is going on. My #1 fear is abandonment and that’s exactly what he just did. I don’t even know what happened or why he is suddenly being so cold and cruel. I have a very supportive network of family and friends so I know I’ll have help with the baby - and everyone is telling me they are here for me and to forget him...
But I can’t. My heart is aching. I can’t stop thinking about how this time last week he was running my belly and telling me how much he loves me. I sleep and cry and that’s it. I have tried distracting myself with TV and movies but it’s so hard when I’m not allowed out of bed.
I just want to talk to him and figure out where to go from here. I just want to hear his voice and have him say he will be a father to this baby, even if we aren’t together. I don’t want this to be an ugly court filled drama complete with lawyers and parents who hate each other...that isn’t what is best for our child. I wanted to just work this out between us - but he has completely blocked me and refuses. I don’t understand how he can be so cold. So callous. So cruel.
What do I do? How can I get him to communicate with me and make him see that what he is doing is causing me an ungodly amount of stress that I CANNOY afford right now? How do I at least make us friendly again, friendly enough to coparent without all this drama and animosity that came from nowhere?
TLDR - title explains it. Boyfriend of 3 years up and left me at 27 weeks pregnant. He blocked me and won’t speak to me. My heart is broken and I’m stressed and terrified not knowing what is going on.
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