Was it wrong for me (22f) to break up with him (31?)?

*31m

I broke up with my boyfriend of six months last night. It was so hard because I love him, but the trust was completely shattered.

It started when his absolute best friend for three years messaged me two weeks ago telling me he has abused her for years, sexually emotionally and physically, as recent as three weeks ago.

She told me in detail about how he would talk to her about me. That I was crazy and would talk about our kinky sex in disturbing detail to her, yet never talk about me as a person.

She also said that he never stopped objectifying women behind my back at parties, rating women out of ten etc.

He admited to me that when we first started dating he read one of our fights outloud to her and her boyfriend and they laughed at me. The fight was because I got upset due to him calling me hot when I was 14, as I have CSA trauma.

He was also known for making jokes that were so mean and insulted me. Which is why she got upset because he made the same type of jokes to her.

About how I'm just a wet hole, how I was easy for him which is why he's with me. About how women hit the wall (even though he says the wall doesn't exist) and how stupid women are (women can't do anything!).

Ofc he would also call me beautiful and compliment me and ofc I would take shots back, but it got to the point where I didn't want to feel like we were attacking eachother all the time under the excuse of joking.

After this week of her and another ex best friend said he sexually assulted them.

He was able to explain everything and even apologized for laughing and telling people I'm crazy. He has been so sweet , and kind, said I love you finally, was making plans for trips, but I feel so broken over this.

I broke up with him last night through text and blocked, I know it was cowardly but I'm horrible at breaking up and I love him.

I miss him and love him so much. I feel like I may have made a huge mistake?

Tldr: me and bf have been dating for six months. He is known for using jokes to put ppl down. Two of his ex best friends one as recent as two weeks ago said he abused them. Also found out he was making fun of my trauma episodes behind my back. He apologized and Eexplained it all to me, and has been acting amazing now, so I regret breaking up.

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