A feminist cartoon called You Should’ve Asked By Emma has been initiating conversation around the communication mishaps between genders. The woman in the cartoon invites a friend over for dinner with her children and she is having a tough time managing the creation of the meal while tending to her children. He watches as she
+ Read More
The post You Should Have Asked – Do Men Need Instructions? appeared first on Loving FLR.
Women who are being introduced to the concept of a Loving Female Led Relationship for the first time don’t have to be frightened by the idea at all. Some may assume that a Loving Female Led Relationship indicates that the woman must take on traditionally masculine qualities and duties in the relationship such as being
+ Read More
The post A Loving FLR is Not A Gender Role Reversal appeared first on Loving FLR.
At some point or the other in our lives, we all have had that dreadful moment of a breakup, whether we were the one breaking up or the one being dumped. (Let’s pull the band-aid quick)
It’s never we parted ways cordially, one is a little hung up and hoping they get back.
While some part ways for good and take their post-breakup time on self-reflection others jump right into another relationship, the reason for which can be many- whether it is to make your ex jealous or to prove a point that you have moved on or maybe you really found someone special. But only time will tell the fate of the rebound relationship.
Imagine this, you’ve just broken up and you have met this amazing person soon after. You really enjoy his company genuinely and secretly start to believe it’s going somewhere. But then, you are worried that it is all happening way too soon and you don’t take it any further.
What if you throw away a perfectly good relationship that could have turned into something real in the long run? Not a good idea, right?
Here are 5 signs that are screaming to you that the rebound relationship can be something more:
Better, you unfollow them on social media. No, it’s not pity move. It is, in fact, a healthy step may be at a later day you can be the best of friends, just after the break up is not the time.
So, if you are no longer checking your ex’s last seen or what picture they uploaded or who is in their latest Facebook update.
That’s the first step that you are getting over your breakup and this new person in your life is definitely making you forget your past.
Even if it’s to laze around at home and watch Netflix. Yes, even just staying in and binge watching a show seems a great idea. Not just that, you both keep making plans to hang out, try out new things whether it’s a good ol’ movie and dinner date or go watch a game or even go for wine tasting.
Everything seems like a good idea and even better when it’s with them. You just keep making plans after plans and actually do them too.
Yes, when it is a new relationship especially a rebound one there’ll be a lot of sex, great sex, new sex, and even adventurous sex probably. But what’s a clear-cut sign that the relationship is going somewhere is that the relationship isn’t just about sex.
You start doing more things together things that are not necessarily sexual or even romantic. Maybe, they attend your office party or tag along to a weekend at home where dreadful questions such as when are you going to get married and when will they get to see grandkids are going to be targeted at you.
In fact, they’ll be more than happy to be there with you and for you, probably even have a little fun at your expense.
If they are not interested in you, why else would they come to an annoying work even or actually try to get to know all of your family and probably even come out for friend’s night with your friends?
They treat your friends and siblings like their own and all of your friends and family will love them. If your Grandpa gives them a thumbs up then you know they have worked their way in.
For all you know they spent hours or even days thinking of the perfect gift for you and then settled for the gift card because they don’t want to make the wrong move.
Breakups are sad and you are going to go through gut-wrenching pain and you’ll probably spend weeks or months crying over your heartbreak watching sappy rom-coms eating ice cream saying out loud you’ll never find love again.
But then enter this new person and everything just changes, you’ll start smiling again, start being happy and the best of all you’ll start believing that you’ll love again and you’ll actually be in love again.
In the times, where hooking up has become way too normal, finding love is not an easy task.
Sometimes, we get into relationships way too soon and sometimes we don’t give them the time or the credit that it will turn into something great, but then again why believe those norms when it comes to your relationships?
Hey, last time I checked it’s YOUR relationship and you are entitled to make your own norms.
As long it is a healthy relationship and you have had your own healing space and time, why not see where life takes you with this wonderful new human and the positive energy they bring with them?
The new person in your life is definitely a bundle of joy and is worth your time and energy, you just need to follow your intuition and the past experiences might tell you otherwise which you totally need to keep in account but you also need to give your heart a break.
People just don’t shower you with gifts and amazing moments that you are going to cherish for a really long time for nothing. If nothing else, don’t leave them hanging on your uncertainty that’s the last thing they deserve.
The post What If Rebound Relationships Are the Real Deal? appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
Ego is known to play a major role in ruining countless relationships both romantic and non-romantic. If you look back, in retrospect, you are bound to have at least one friendship or a relationship that is strained. Whether it was the reason of the falling out or for not getting back, ego is always there. Lurking through dark corners, leaping in, keeping you from getting back with a person that once meant the world to you.
If there’s a situation in which you and your partner are to make a decision, while it is normal to think the other one would also have the same decision, in reality, it doesn’t work that way. The difference in opinion is where the ego usually starts to go the wrong way.
If tackled well by keeping the ego aside, a difference in opinion can lead to a more healthy relationship with better understanding and a reality check.
And this reality check doesn’t have to be a bad one. It can be a new learning opportunity, you will learn something new about your partner.
While you can have a discount on things, you can’t have it on emotions and feelings. That’s exactly why communication in a relationship is very essential
The term ‘Ego’ is often used with a lot of other emotions, feelings, and behaviors interchangeably. For example, the ego is often confused with arrogance, confidence and so on. While arrogance is a part of the boastful ego, it is not the same thing.
It is a mere consequence of it and confidence again is a healthy aspect.
A faulty ego feeds on a lot of self-built negativity around oneself- these feelings, thoughts, and emotions range from fear, jealousy, hatred, anger to judgment, lack of forgiveness, expectations, and limitation.
So it is essential that we always have our egos in check because, in the long run, it is just going to be counterproductive.
The biggest mistake we often do is keep our egos ahead of the person we love and sometimes even ourselves and our happiness.
We let the ego feed on self-doubt and ruin something wonderful. People just fail to understand that being confident is one thing and being egoistic and boastful is plain self-destructive.
I’ll list out different ways ego affects your relationships and in turn your life. Thanks to ego-
Yes, this is bound to happen. If you are always going to walk around being boastful about yourself, not apologizing, not even being humane to others, these actions are ought to push the right people away.
In general, people like having those people around them who lift them up, keep aside putting them on a pedestal.
If someone is constantly putting the other down, criticising or even constantly telling them you are better than them. It’s not a good news and definitely not in romantic relationships.
When you have a heightened sense of self, you are always trying to prove your point, come what may even if you are in the wrong, could be denial, could be ignorance.
In the process of doing so, you’ll start being highly irrational and there just won’t be any common ground or a midway for you and your partner.
How long can a relationship go on in favor of one partner? Then comes criticism, ‘I don’t like how you do this’…. ‘You are not how you used to be’… ‘You’ve changed’ and all the statements on those lines. And being critical about everything isn’t a sign of a healthy and a long-lasting relationship.
Do you remember the reason your partner fell in love with you? Do you still have that quality?
Always assuming the worst of your partner and being defensive about yourself and your actions in every conversation forget arguments and fights is not a good sign.
What happened to looking at the big picture? What happened to being compassionate? And when did the fight become you vs your partner? Isn’t it both of you vs the problem?
On a daily basis, you deal with a lot of stress, heaps and bounds of it. Whether it’s work-related or paying bills or sometimes even making ends meet.
If you add ego defended actions that just target your self-worth to the mix, you are bound to have a lot of stressful moments and sleepless nights. Are you prepared for that?
Anything in extreme measures is bad. While ego is generally used in a highly negative sense if in control can lead to a healthy life and relationships.
Basically, ego has a purpose in life and that is to serve our perceptions about ourselves and when it has a faulty self-image it turns to external forces for the lift.
If you see in the positive sense, ego is something that will lead to self-discovery. Yes, there are times when you really want to prove a point to your partner, you are convinced that you are right or perhaps there’s something gone terribly wrong but in those situations, it’s vital that you resist the urge to prove yourself or even defend yourself.
A simple I’m sorry goes a long way in such cases. And by all means, don’t let the ego ruin the love you have for each other.
The post When Your Relationship Is a Battleground for Your Ego appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
Intimacy is the glue that holds families together. It's what connects us over the years and across the miles.
The post Turn Toward Your Child to Nurture Intimacy appeared first on The Gottman Institute.
Does Your Ex Contact You Only When They Need You? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
Does your ex contact you only when they need you? You may or may not be over your breakup and wonder what the right move is when they make contact.
First and foremost, be honest with yourself. Before you try to decipher their agenda and the real reason they are contacting you, be sure of what your real agenda is. Be truthful about your ex as well. Are they contacting you to see how you are doing, or is it only when they are having a problem and either need your help or a shoulder to cry on? Before you create a fantasy in your head that they are using this contact as a way to get back together with you, focus on reality.
If a friend of yours only made contact with you when they needed you, you wouldn’t romanticize that. You would get pissed off and feel as though they are using you, wouldn’t you? Same thing goes for your ex. They gave up the right to ask for favors, or have you there for them emotionally, when your relationship ended.
If you don’t want to get back together with them then why are you entertaining this? To be nice? Stop it. You need a much cleaner break than this and you need to let them get on with their life. They have to find someone else to fulfill the roles that you used to. Don’t feel bad about not being there for them, it really is better for the both of you in the long run if you move on.
Now, if you want your ex back, hate to say it but you can’t really be there for them when they need you. You may think you are earning points with them but in truth you really aren’t. They are not asking you to get back together, are they? No. They felt the need to reach out to you for another reason. They missed the support and help they used to get from you.
Does Your Ex Contact You Only When They Need You?
Now, if you give them help every time they need it, then they have nothing to miss, do they? No real incentive to get you back, is there? You are giving them what they need from you, with no strings attached. Your best bet is to simply not answer. Especially if they have moved on to someone new. You need to let them know that it is inappropriate for the two of you to talk, and they need to ask the person in their new relationship for whatever it is that they need. That may seem scary to do, especially if you want them back, but it really is the smartest thing to do.
If the two of you had a significant relationship and a death in the family occurred, or some other major issue, you can help them out at a time like that. What we are referring to is an ex who has done this more than once, especially if it is to bitch about their new relationship.
If you want someone back make them miss you. Don’t take that away by giving them exactly what it is they miss about you. Don’t let them dismiss the fact that they need you so easily. Don’t be there for them with their current relationship problems. You are sending the wrong message and letting them believe YOU have not moved on and will be there for them whenever they need you without being in a relationship with you.
You may want to hear them out and listen to them bad mouth their ex, but if you really want them to end their new relationship and come back to you, that is the wrong thing to do. Don’t give them a sounding board and let them vent. Let them take their anger or frustration and let it play out in their current relationship. Don’t enable them to stay, especially if you want another chance with them.
The post Does Your Ex Contact You Only When They Need You? appeared first on Relationships Reality.
Michelle Obama, a Princeton and Harvard graduated lawyer better known as the former First Lady of the United States of America (FLOTUS), is one of the most driven and inspiring women to have ever taken the position. Belonging to a middle-class family, with uneducated parents and a single-story house, she paved her way towards success and left her mark on her own untrodden territory.
She is famous for her words of wisdom and impeccable speeches that she has delivered addressing multiple issues of the world, speaking for the rights of the oppressed, LBGTQ community, women, refugees, etc. She is also very vocal about gun control issues and laws, the importance of education and career driven attitude, a stable marriage and family and the tips and tricks to achieve a happy marriage.
Despite being from a humble background, she always strived to excel at school, extra-curricular activities, work and after marriage; she proved her skills in developing and maintaining a successful and happy life with her life partner better known as the 44th president of the United States of America. It may be surprising to a few but the aforementioned, one of the most loved and cherished personalities in the USA prior to his presidency worked under her mentorship as an intern.
He was immediately entranced by her intellect, code of conduct and commitment which led to him pursuing her despite being turned down a few times. Eventually, she agreed to go out with him, and after being in a relationship for 3 years, they decided to tie the knot and get married. Michelle later revealed that Barak hadn’t promised her riches and luxuries in their wedding vows, but he had pledged to offer her an interesting life which, she admits, he delivered.
She continues to lead a happy and peaceful married life now with Barak Obama and their two beautiful daughters, Malia Ann Obama and Sasha Obama. Michelle over the 8 years of serving as the FLOTUS has shared multiple of her secrets and tips vocally adding up to a flourishing and resilient marriage and by her actions set an example for all to follow.
She addressed the problems of insecurities in marriage by saying that a wife is not threatened by anything as much as the mere thought of another woman competing with her for her husband’s attention and affection.
She added that there is also nothing more humiliating, painful, disrespectful and belittling. On another occasion, she said that in marriage there is no ‘’you’’ or ‘’I’’, partners are meant to work together as a team to achieve a common and agreed upon goal. If they begin competing with each other, their relationship is bound to collapse.
Michelle, on the topic of husbands, said that the reason other women look attractive to men is that those women are well taken care of by someone. Instead of pursuing other women, it is better to provide the love and care to your own wife to make her feel beautiful, admired and respected.
Instead of focusing on the greener grass across the fence, it is more important to water your grass regularly.
Furthermore, she added that a man prioritizing his wife makes her feel important and relevant, a feeling any wife honors and craves.
She is also very mindful of the everlasting impact of a failed and unsuccessful marriage on children. She stressed on multiple occasions on the importance of setting an example for your children by holding your end in making your marriage work.
According to her, Children see their parents as an example and witnessing their love, respect and commitment give them hope.
She on several occasions emphasized the lack of correlation between the big house, expensive brands, fancy cars and a happy marriage. She was of the belief that mutual love, commitment, respect, and honesty are the key ingredients to a successful marriage.
According to her, a marriage cannot be successful if only one of the two partners is making an effort or compromising. Taking your partner for granted or confusing their relentless love for you for their mistake, could lead to total destruction of the marriage and you losing something irreplaceable.
She also highlighted the importance of praying for your spouse, their happiness, protection, health, etc., every day.
The former LOTUS spoke about the impact of one’s social circle on their married life. She said that friends could play a pivotal role in making or breaking the marriage and thus, one should choose them wisely.
She also added that relationship advice should only be taken from people who are in a good, happy and cohesive relationship and not from single individuals who derive their advice from movies and theoretical examples.
Now, after her 8 years of serving as the FLOTUS, continues to use her voice to inspire and motivate young individuals to pursue their dreams and to take pride in their hard work and commitment for it will eventually by their drive that enables them to bring a positive and impactful change in the world. She has set an example for all individuals and left words for wisdom in many aspects of life to help people make good and informed decisions.
The post Marriage Advice by Michelle Obama to Every Couple appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
Relationship Matters Podcast Number 78 “Depression, emotion regulation and the demand and withdraw pattern during intimate relationship conflict: Dr Sarah Holley discusses her paper which investigates the relationship between depression and the demand/withdraw pattern common in conflict in romantic couples. Read the associated article here.
Interested in learning more about relationships? Click here for other topics on Science of Relationships. Like us on Facebook or follow us on Twitter to get our articles delivered directly to your NewsFeed. Learn more about our book and download it here.
We weren’t always as wise as we are today. In hind sight, I bet you want to kick yourself for making some of the silly decisions you once did. Today is the day that we all learn from each other’s mistakes. Let’s build up the Loving FLR ANTI-Bucket List of all the things we will
+ Read More
The post Drop A Comment in the Loving FLR ANTI-Bucket List appeared first on Loving FLR.
As Tom set his briefcase down on the table, he looked up and saw his wife Carla by the kitchen sink preparing their dinner. At that moment, he realized he had a choice. He could go to the kitchen and connect with her by looking in her eyes and telling her he’s happy to see... [Read More]
The post How to Be an Irresistible Invitation to Love appeared first on Susie & Otto Collins.
Some men write to me asking me for support through their breakups. Some women share issues that are too critical to respond to in one email. I respond to some email questions publicly if I believe that the topics would benefit the entire Loving FLR Community but there are some readers whose questions are personal
+ Read More
The post Do You Want FLR Coaching By Email? appeared first on Loving FLR.
What is local SEO? Local SEO is SEO in local places. For example you can be ranked for best bars in Los Angeles. Why is it important? Because almost half the search are local search. People want to know, where the events, tutor, bars etc. in their area are. So if you have a local … What is local SEO? weiterlesen
The post What is local SEO? appeared first on Denis Doan .
I adore my wife and I would do anything for her. Our marriage of 5 years has been wonderful. The notion of a Female-Led Relationship began shortly after one of our very rare fights. And it wasn’t really a fight, but a communication break-down. The next day I thought about what happened, and so I
+ Read More
The post I Promised to Correct the Things That Upset My Wife appeared first on Loving FLR.
By Tony Jing How an Editor’s Career Crisis Led to a $500 Million Dollar Startup Recently a YouTube channel and a Facebook page caught my eye. It’s called Yitiao — meaning “One Article” or “One Piece” in Chinese. For the past three years, Yitiao published one or two highly produced short videos everyday, showcasing well-designed homes, … How an Editor’s Career Crisis Led to a $500 Million Dollar Startup weiterlesen
The post How an Editor’s Career Crisis Led to a $500 Million Dollar Startup appeared first on Denis Doan .
You have recently become a mother, and this new life role, of course, is the most important. What to do, if you do not want to trust your child to a nanny, but your financial equation is quite critical? You can work at home. Try to organize your time so as to achieve success without leaving home. To work during the decree is a desire of the majority of young mothers, while for some of them, it is an urgent need. Many people think that this is very difficult because the kid constantly distracts you from the case, on which you need to concentrate. However, we know the secrets of success, which we will share with you in this post.
Here are some tips for working mothers-
Without the support of your own family and friends, you will not be able to fully work, and as a result, to achieve success. Try to inform the child that there are hours when the mother is at home, but he can not disturb her. A husband can quite help with the performance of some household duties.
Even if the work can be done sitting on the couch with a laptop, the presence of a workplace is very important. It disciplines both you and your family. It creates a certain sense of responsibility and working environment. Treat your homework as any other, avoiding domestic chores during working hours.
Prepare a set of hours or days per week when you perform most of your duties. This is especially important if your customers work in the office in the traditional time. At the same time, do not forget to use the flexibility that working from home offers you. Understand for yourself, what tasks you can postpone on a late night, when the family is already asleep or in the early morning, while they are still not awake. Short tasks can be solved during the child’s daytime sleep.
If you work at home, it does not mean that you do not have the right to take a break.
Have a rest twice – in the first and second half of the day. Time should be enough to do respiratory gymnastics, stretch muscles or call a friend. Be sure to plan lunchtime and do not eat at the computer!
We all perfectly understand the temptation to quickly sort out the clothes and put it in a washing machine or, conversely, hang it on the balcony.
However, remember that you could not do this while in the office building.
Treat your work at home as a regular job, avoiding household chores.
Write down all your responsibilities and monitor their implementation. In such a way you will surely stand on the organized path to achieve your goals.
Work at home implies flexibility of the schedule, but also involves more tasks.
Therefore, if it is difficult for you to manage several tasks simultaneously.
Let calendars and magnetic board become your best friends.
If the family budget allows, hire yourself a helper in the daytime. For example, a nanny, a governess or a housekeeper who will perform part of the homework. After all, would you have to do this, working from the office?
Contact new people at work. Remember that this point will help greatly in the future.
This is one of the most important mom tips is do one of the breaks so long that you have the opportunity to go out of the house for a while and get distracted from work. You can meet a friend or go for a walk with a dog. Learn how to disconnect from the routine and relax.
As you can see, the advice is not at all complicated and these mom tips are easy to implement. The main thing is a positive attitude and a belief in success. Learn to organize your time and relax from work. In addition, remember that the main part of your life should be dedicated to your child, who needs care. After all, you decided to work from home, and not at the office for him.
If you do not have a job and you would like to have one, try to work as a freelancer. Today, there is a great opportunity for young mothers to replenish the family budget without leaving home.
The Internet allows you to turn your abilities and talents into cash. Freelance – Exchange of Remote Work – gives you an excellent opportunity to combine the responsibilities of a young mother and earn good money. The list of freelance specialties is very wide: designers, journalists, translators, accountants and many others.
By analyzing the pros and cons of freelancing, you yourself can understand whether this style of work suits you or not. First of all, you determine whether you can combine work and care for the baby, will your spouse support you in your endeavor? If you want to steadily receive a certain amount at a certain time, but you are afraid of change and do not want to risk, then, most likely, freelance work will be a burden to you. If you are a creative person and your only drawback is the inability or unwillingness to organize a process, then do not rush to go to “free swimming”. If your desire to work will not be to the detriment to your baby care if you know how to profitably present your knowledge, if you are capable of self-organization, you know how to plan a budget, – safely go to the camp of freelancers. Perhaps, this style of work will allow you to maximally reveal talents and achieve the level of income that you dream about. The main thing is not to forget about your true calling. No profession causes so much respect and honor as a specialty of a “good mother”.
The post 10 Useful Tips for a Mom Working from Home appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
If leaders fail in driving emotions in the right direction, nothing they do will work as well as it could or should.
The post Emotional Intelligence Is Key to Successful Leadership appeared first on The Gottman Institute.
Has Your Ex Really Changed? appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
If you want to believe your ex has really changed you need to consider a few things first. The behaviors, attitude and actions that you wanted them to change were things they could have changed a long time ago. Unless you broke up with them the second you spotted those things, you more than likely gave them enough time to make those changes.
But they didn’t, did they? You probably told them over a thousand times exactly what you wanted them to change and why. Did they listen? No. They may have promised over and over, but broke those same promises over and over. They may have defended themselves and told you they didn’t want to change or shouldn’t have to.
Now your ex is telling you things will be different now, and that they have changed. But how can you be sure that your ex has really changed? You can’t tell right away. There is nothing they could say or do to prove they have changed, you can only go by what your ex is saying.
That isn’t enough.
Your ex needs to prove he has really changed, slowly over a period of time, before you get back together with them. You may want to dive back in right away because you have missed your ex, but that would be a stupid mistake. Agree to be friends first, for a while and not just in label only. This means no sex, no spending all your time together, and you are still single.
Take things very, very slowly. Give them a chance to date you, not live with you. Let them see you more gradually, and again, slowly. Take the time you need to observe them in ways that show you that your ex has made the necessary changes. If they get frustrated, or pushy, or try to cross the boundaries immediately withdraw.
If an ex really wants you back and has made changes for you, they will respect your boundaries. If your ex is full of shit and is just saying what you want to hear to get you back then they will try to cross them big time. So that right there is a good way to tell if they have really changed without fully investing yourself in the relationship again.
Has Your Ex Really Changed?
Be sure to look for red flags that remind you of their past behavior. Don’t brush it off. Pay attention and let your ex know they are doing a bad job of proving to you they have changed. If you see the same old thing all over again, calmly tell them that they have not changed and hang up the phone, stop texting, and withdraw from the situation completely. Show them right away that you saw through them and you won’t put up with it again.
The post Has Your Ex Really Changed? appeared first on Relationships Reality.
Are you someone who is in a long-distance relationship?
And a relationship that has proved to be stronger and longer than you expected?
But you still can’t help but wonder how long is it really going to survive?
And don’t you really wish that you both finally manage to stay together and get rid of these recurrent absences?
Are you at a point where you hate the long distance that stands stubbornly between you two?
And just when you two are about to be reunited, do you severely dread that phone call or a text message saying his stay might go a little longer?
Do you ask yourself often that is it worth it, when you see those couple hanging out together, laughing and talking endlessly, while you keep peeking into your cellphone screen, waiting for a message to pop up from him?
And while it’s already a long-distance relationship, how empty and hollow do you feel when there are total absences at times and you are unable to reach him through your Internet-based texting and calling Apps, yet still paying all those monthly cellphone bills.
Well, I can totally relate to the situation that you are facing because, needless to say, I was in one too. My husband is an ex-Marine and spent years in the war in Afghanistan. We were unable to speak to each other for the longest of times during those two years, that later extended to another two years.
Now when I take a trip down the memory lane, I literally smile thinking of how all those years brought our hearts closer and strengthened our relationship. We were more appreciative of each other’s sacrifices and respected each other’s feelings.
Now that I practice as a counselor for couples struggling in long distance relationships, I realized a long time ago how this distance only causes people to be closer and bond as better partners.
Let’s dig a little deeper into how in a long-distance relationship, absences actually strengthen the bond that you share.
If you are struggling in a long-distance relationship and you consider ‘distance’ as the bone of contention and root of every single problem in your life, then let me enlighten you with a dose of reality.
Couples that stay together and have never experienced distance and absence (that you may envy each day when you wake up perhaps) are not happy couples most of the times.
Although they are together after experiencing intense surges of emotions and feelings for each other, most of them fail to retain the irresistible attraction that they initially felt through the years.
Since I also offer to counsel to the couples with unhappy problems, struggling to keep their relationship intact, let me tell you that most of the couples complain of having a lack of involvement, attention, and attraction.
Most women and even men complain of being taken for granted and how things turned out to be not up to their expectations.
So, it is not how it seems to be for the couples that are together.
None of the aforementioned complains are ever put forth by someone who is in a successful long-distance relationship. Rather, they really crave to be by each other’s side and hence the level of involvement and attraction is always high.
A relationship is all about involvement and emotions that a couple shares. If lately, you have obsessed with how other couples are hanging out together, flaunting their love and looking all happy and content, you need to know that it’s not the distance that makes the emotions fade away.
So, whether your relationship is the one that was a long-distance one since the beginning or it was a long-term relationship that later became a long-distance relationship due to certain commitments, just know that it is the distance really that is keeping you intact and all those emotions that you have for each other have only been augmented through this distance.
Ask yourself. Don’t you get goosebumps when you think about meeting him again? That shows the strength of your relationship.
When emotions are strong and powerful, hearts are close, geographical distances don’t matter!
And this is how it works.
Distance and absence help you analyze so much about your relationship. It makes you recognize your partner’s efforts and the love that you both have for each other. It makes you appreciate things better. It makes you crave for each other’s presence that staying together for endless times never makes you feel.
While you are away and disconnected, it feels like it’s a test of your resilience, faithfulness, and commitment and you realize how important are all these things really are in a relationship.
Communication over the Internet or phone is really helpful while the relationship is distant, and especially after those periodic absences.
With novel texting and calling apps and facilities like video calling has made staying connected easier.
When you get to see your partner on your gadget screen, all those feelings and emotions are aroused and you feel much closer. Also, love remains rejuvenated with regular communication.
Stop fretting about your long-distance relationship and shun all the thoughts about being cheated on or any similar doubts. The insecurity always comes when something is lacking in terms of the basics things in your relationship, such as love, commitment, attraction, faithfulness and so on.
It’s never the distance though. Focus on the qualities and sacrifices that your companion has made for you. And again, feeling insecure is just normal.
Distance makes you fall in love all over again. You truly recognize how you much does your partner actually matter for you. And yes, you become all creative in your love-life because of the distance that you experienced.
So, just celebrate these absences as powerful precursors of stronger love and bonding. Wishing you a life-long relationship!
The post How Periodic Absences Strengthen Long-Distance Relationships? appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
Relationship Matters Podcast Number 77 “The wandering eye perceives more threats”: Dr Angela Neal talks about how anger builds within a relationship as people project their own attraction towards other people onto their partners’ and how this projection alters their perceptions of their partner’s attraction to others; increasing the perceived threat to the relationship. Read the associated article here.
Interested in learning more about relationships? Click here for other topics on Science of Relationships. Like us on Facebook or follow us on Twitter to get our articles delivered directly to your NewsFeed. Learn more about our book and download it here.
Single parent households are on the rise and more and more fathers have full or joint custody of children. Chances are high that you may find yourself dating a single dad. If you don’t have kids yourself, this can be both exciting and daunting. Here’s what you need to keep in mind when dating a [...]
The post Dating a Single Dad? Here are Your Must-Have Tips appeared first on Love in 90 Days.
Here are 12 jealousy quotes from jealousy coaches and experts Susie and Otto Collins to help you move past overwhelm to more love...
The post 12 Jealousy Quotes if You’re Overwhelmed with Jealousy appeared first on Susie & Otto Collins.
Earlier this month the world was rattled by the suicides of two of the brightest lights in the realm of business and entertainment.
On June 5th, Kate Spade, an entrepreneur whose handbags and accessories brighten the lives of millions of women, succumbed to the darkness that plagued her soul. Just a few days later, Anthony Bourdain, a charismatic man who ascended from the humblest beginnings to celebrity chief, surrendered to the crushing weight of hopelessness and despair.
Everyone is asking is how could two people who seemed to have it all ever even contemplate suicide?
The answer has to do with the nature of celebrity and the challenges these human beings face in accessing quality mental health care.
From the outside, celebrity looks like life perfected.
From the inside, however, it’s a life riddled with insecurities, vulnerabilities, hypersensitivity and a chronic fear of falling from a lofty perch.
As I explain in my upcoming book, celebrities are people who’ve been stripped of their humanness and objectified for a feature of their being – their beauty, their voice, their surname, their wealth, their intellect or their charisma. In this objectification, they become pawns in others’ ego gratification and tokens of others’ pleasure.
All goes well as long as they act consistently with the veneer of their celebrated feature. But when they evidence any signs of frailties inherent in their humanity, they’re decimated by the media and betrayed by their public.
Unfortunately, unlike other human beings who have strong social support systems who they can trust, celebrities are isolated in their pain. If they do reach out for help, they’re hunted like prey or taken advantage of by treatment providers who see them as profit centres and fodder for their narcissist egos.
But this trajectory of exploitation, suffering and loss can be changed and celebrity patients moved in a reparative direction.
Quality care demands that at every stage of the power and economic spectrum, patients must be provided treatment that addresses their distinct cultural markers. For celebrities, my research and clinical practice over the last decade has identified the following three:
Isolation
Suspiciousness of outsiders
Hyper agency
The burden of transcending these markers and meeting the patient in a place of cultural competency and clinical excellence is on the treating professional.
It’s time for the field of mental health to recognize that celebrities are a distinct minority group with distinct cultural markers. We need to meet them in the darkness of their souls rather than demonizing them when they show human vulnerability or exploiting them as glamorous profit centres.
Yes, celebrities occupy a rarified position in our society, but culturally competent and clinically excellent care is a right, not a privilege that the treatment community owes to every human being at every cultural manifestation.
The post Celebrity Suicide: Decoupled appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
What is a landing page? Landing page is a special website creating mostly for lead generation. If you don’t know, what lead generation is, read this! Lead Generation. By the way, the picture above is my website. Check it out: SEO Services. Most visitors see it after clicking on an online ads e.g. Google AdWords, Facebook Ads, … What is a landing page? weiterlesen
The post What is a landing page? appeared first on Denis Doan .
Dear Te-Erika, Thank you Ma’am for allowing me to ask my question. I am just always curious about why if this is who I am and what I want why do I need to have my wife discipline me? The truth is when left unchecked I always fall back into more undisciplined habits. I need
+ Read More
The post Why Do I Need My Wife to Discipline Me? appeared first on Loving FLR.
How to increase your traffic within 60 days By Andrianes Pinantoan Let’s face it. Your blog is stagnating. You keep checking your traffic for signs of growth but … none! The chart is as flat as a pancake. You desperately need to do something different, but what? Be honest — you’re baffled by all the options. And … How to Increase Your Traffic by 226% in Just 60 Days weiterlesen
The post How to Increase Your Traffic by 226% in Just 60 Days appeared first on Denis Doan .
You may have long imagined that you have met the love of your life and you may be wondering why it hasn’t happened in your reality yet. There may be more to the issue than you will admit so let me offer you a few clues as to why you may not be ready for
+ Read More
The post 5 Signs You Are Not Ready for a Relationship appeared first on Loving FLR.
Lead generation Lead generation is to convert strangers into someone, who is interested in your products and services, which is called a lead. Now, when you call that lead, it is not a cold call any more, because that person already knows you, which leads to less rejections. In terms of marketing, lead generation is … Lead generation weiterlesen
The post Lead generation appeared first on Denis Doan .
Dear Te-Erika, We’ve been married 27 years. I’ve always enjoyed supporting, serving and satisfying my wife. Since becoming aware of the Loving FLR concept, I’ve taken my supporting role much more seriously and am much happier. I know my wife sees the difference in me and is slowly coming around to taking more control over
+ Read More
The post My Wife Isn’t Financially Responsible Enough for a Loving FLR appeared first on Loving FLR.
Distractions are part of parenting when you so much to do. However, it is the level of distraction that matters.
The post Distracted While Parenting? Here’s How to Be More Attentive appeared first on The Gottman Institute.
Falling in love is the easiest, most beautiful thing in the world. You’re aware that’s just your initial enthusiasm. You wish you could be this happy forever and ever, but at the back of your mind, you know that it might be just a temporary fling.
But you keep working on the relationship. It’s the most successful one you’ve ever had. You understand each other, you make each other laugh, and the spark seems to be there for a really long time.
You’re sure this is the real deal… Or are you?
Does a successful relationship guarantee a successful marriage? Not necessarily.
We’ve all seen those perfectly happy couples get a divorce soon after the wedding, although they’ve been happy for years during their relationship. Yup, that’s exactly what happened to me. I married my high-school boyfriend. The great love that was supposed to be a lifetime connection. It failed.
Why does this happen to good relationships? Where do things break?
I analyzed the matter for quite a long time, so I think I have few potential answers.
Don’t get me wrong; a great relationship is still necessary for a good marriage. You don’t go marry someone just because you feel like your time has come.
You marry someone because you connect really well, you have tons of fun together, and you cannot imagine your life without this special person. That’s a good relationship, and it’s the essential foundation of a fulfilled future.
When you’re wondering whether or not you should marry someone, these are the questions to ask yourself:
The answers to these questions are indicators of a good relationship that’s ripe for marriage. It’s a good foundation to have!
I had the answers to those questions. Everything seemed perfectly flawless. Don’t get me started about those comments saying that you have to go through several relationships to find your true love. That’s not how things go.
Even though this was my first love, it was real and it didn’t break because we needed to experiment with other people. It broke because we didn’t get married for the right reasons. We got married simply because we thought that it was the next logical thing to do.
So let me ask you a few other questions:
If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, then no; the good relationship won’t guarantee a successful marriage.
Let’s make something very clear: nothing is a guarantee for a successful marriage. You’re the only one who knows how much work you’re willing to put in it, and your partner is the only one who knows how they can invest the same level of effort.
No matter how happy you seem at this moment, things might break into pieces.
You should definitely get married to the person you consider to be the one. But take my advice on it: pick the right timing, too. You both have to be ready for this major step forward!
The post Can a Good Relationship Guarantee a Great Marriage? appeared first on Marriage.com Blog.
Dear Te-Erika, I live with my 68 year old father who is a lifelong diehard misogynist and I am constantly put down or ‘put in my place’ as my father calls it and I feel that I cant bring a man into my life because my father would just ruin any attempts I make at
+ Read More
The post Help. My Father is a Misogynist appeared first on Loving FLR.
Relationship Neglect appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
Relationship neglect is common in adult relationships. Since neglect is doing nothing, most people feel if they are doing nothing, that is better than doing something wrong. Neglect can destroy even the best of relationships over time.
A couple could start out making a sacrifice for one of their careers. They agree that right now one partner has to put a lot of time into their career and they will spend less time together. But how long can this go on before the couple grows apart? How long can the relationship suffer from neglect before it one or both partners are lonely?
Very often the partner who is focusing on their career gets used to the relationship being a low priority and never fixes the imbalance. It becomes the way of life and how their relationship rolls. Well that kind of neglect cannot continue indefinitely or the relationship is headed for a breakup. Partners are willing to make sacrifices but not for too long and not forever. It’s ridiculous to think the relationship could survive intact when so little time and attention are being put into it.
Relationship Neglect
Emotional neglect is also damaging to relationships. Being too busy or distracted to provide the level of emotional support their partner needs becomes a real issue down the line. That is one of the main things a partner in a relationship is supposed to provide: emotional support. Who do you expect to do it for you? The person they wind up with after they break up with you? Better watch out or that is exactly what will happen.
To feel close to someone, bonded to them, you need to feel emotionally supported by them. When you are not emotionally supported you feel lonely and feel a distance growing in the relationship. You may not need emotional support as much or as often as your partner does. That’s fine for you to want/need less, but you are not them. You have to accept they may need more affection, attention, or time together than you do, and that it is okay. Don’t get angry with them, make fun of them, or dismiss them. They have a right to be themselves the same as you do.
Relationship neglect can also be physical as well. Some people need more kissing, hugging and sex than their partner. It helps them to feel connected to their partner, especially if they don’t get to spend as much time together for whatever reason. There may be excuses, but those excuses will only buy you so much time before the relationship beings to unravel.
Relationship neglect comes in many forms and all do significant damage to a relationship. You may think you have been getting away with it, but don’t push your luck because the breaking point will be reached down the line. If you are suffering from relationship neglect, don’t wait any longer to address it. If not by words, then do it with action.
The post Relationship Neglect appeared first on Relationships Reality.
