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Marriage is a very diverse kind of bond between two soul mates. There is sheer love, there is friendship, there is possessiveness, and there are sweet arguments too.
This diversity in a marriage should be celebrated at every cost.
You could be a father to the bride, or you could be a bridesmaid, or you could be groom’s college buddy; your appearance should add a little color to the event. Whether you are attending the marriage ceremony as a relative or a best friend, you are likely to prepare a speech for the special day.
If one initiates the speech with a harmless joke about marriage, it would set the atmosphere light and cherished. It is a day of joy and laughter, you should see to it as a speaker. You should add some jokes to your speech along with emotional notes. You should make your speech a win-win speech, so to say.
Following are some marriage jokes to make your speech a stellar one:
If you have already penned your speech sarcastic and hilarious both, to get the audience ready for it, you should begin with:
This has been a very emotional evening; even the cake is in tears.
If you see an emotional audience before you, this could be the best starter for them. You would get to hear lots of giggles after this joke, and this will eventually prepare the audience for what is coming.
We all hear of ideal couples before, and at the time of the wedding, a joke related to such a couple could be a good addition.
Once upon a time, an invisible man married the invisible woman, their kids are also nothing to look at.
Here, you would be referring to an event that never took place, and it was never witnessed by anyone in the world. Though, this invisible family is sure to make everyone bust a gut.
Love and wine are two things that go arms in arms. Now here is some love for the wine!
One couple sat beside each other in a bar and drank wine together. The wife, all of a sudden said I love you. The husband got shocked and asked his wife; is it you or the wine talking?
It’s me, said the wife, talking to the wine!
This joke can be a real suspense thriller. You should have serious facial expressions through the end – until the climax. This will not let the audience guess that it’s a joke.
You can crack an interesting culinary joke which goes as;
Once a wife asked her husband,
Where would we go for our anniversary?
The husband responded,
A place I have never seen before.
The wife immediately suggested,
How about the kitchen?
The husbands who do not learn to cook and help in the kitchen are going to regret that for life. This joke is going to roast them for sure!
Most people in the crowd would enjoy this joke, and the husbands would agree to it too. You better be inquisitive this time and raise a question in the crowd. The question be like;
What do you do to calm your wife when she is really angry?
Well, a simple ‘calm down’ is all it takes to get her a lot upset.
This joke would leave the people rolling in the aisles. They got something that they were not expecting at all.
Be careful that you choose no sexist marriage jokes. There are a lot of old-school jokes maligning one particular gender, specifically women; you should not opt for any of them. Your marriage jokes should not carry bias for any one gender.
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Imaginary Relationships are All In Your Head appeared first on Relationships Reality and was authored by Sarah Adelle and Sophia Elise
Imaginary relationships are often a far cry from reality. When we meet someone, it is common to imagine what it would be like to be in a relationship with them. We use our imagination to create a fantasy of what we would like that relationship to be like. You can take snippets of their personality and create an entire character from it.
Since you see them being helpful at work, for instance, you imagine how this person would be helpful around the house if you lived together. You imagine them offering to help without even being asked, just like they do at work. But you have to keep in mind this is all in your head. You made this shit up. You may think it is an accurate assessment based on what you know of them, but until you are in a relationship with them, you really have no idea what they are like. As a friend, someone could be there for you at the drop of a hat. But when you are in a relationship with them of a romantic nature, they may not treat you that way anymore. People treat their friends, co workers, lovers and family differently.
Imaginary Relationships
Your imagination may be putting a positive spin on a person who in truth you really don’t even know. You can become emotionally attached to someone that in truth is a figment of your imagination. You have not taken the time to get to know them, because you were too busy creating them to make an ideal parter for you. You are more than likely going to be very disappointed because you created the perfect partner, and have incredibly high unrealistic expectations of them. There is nothing wrong with having high standards, but it is not fair to put someone on a pedestal that they didn’t climb on themselves. You put them there, and now you have set them up to fall.
The other problem with these imaginary relationships is they are one-sided. In most cases the person you are daydreaming about, and imagining different romantic scenarios about, is not doing the same thing with you. They are oblivious to what you are doing, so they are not emotionally invested in this fantasy you created. You are, they are not. They may like you, but since they don’t know you , those feelings stay at a certain level. You, on the other hand, have been getting more and more emotionally invested in someone who your imagination created. You haven’t been on a date with them yet, so calm down.
You can’t get mad at them for spending time with other people because their time does not belong to you, you are not in a relationship. Your emotions are unreasonable because you let your imagination run wild. We speak to many people who believe they know everything about someone they have not even had a conversation with. They know exactly what kind of boyfriend or girlfriend they would make. They know how they would treat a partner. Do they really? No. They made it up. There is nothing wrong with a little daydreaming now and then, or trying to picture what so and so would be like as a romantic partner. But don’t let it get out of hand. You have to live the reality of the situation, and not get too emotionally invested in a fantasy that may never come to fruition.
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From the country’s leading relationship experts, comes 'Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.'
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Are men really after one thing: sex? It’s been almost 10 years since I originally wrote this piece. So I wanted to update the research findings and my own learnings about what are men really after. Honestly, not a lot has changed. Commercials, ads, sitcoms, reality shows and popular magazines still tell us that guys […]
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Secret Flirting Tips Dr. Diana Kirschner teaches you powerful secret flirting tips designed to help you attract and date great men! You will learn three different flirting tips based on Dr. Diana’s bestselling dating advice book, Love in 90 Days. And don’t forget, to take advantage of Dr. Diana’s ongoing support. You can learn […]
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One of the tricks to making sure low self esteem doesn’t hijack your relationship is to know that self esteem is made up and we’re the ones who make it up! Our self-esteem seems to be torn down by critical self-talk or even how we …
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Chuck the ‘done to death’ cheesy love messages and get ready to chuckle with the funniest relationship tweets this V-Day.
Valentine’s Day is rarely as rosy and romantic as it’s shown in movies. For most people, it is about following their usual routine and ending their day with some ridiculously expensive champagne and ordering take away!
This Valentine’s day keep it real and appreciate the relationship you have. And maybe even laugh at the quirks and goofiness that makes your relationship fun.
Whether you are single or are in a committed relationship, here are the top Valentine tweets that’ll make you ROFL.
Person: “You have any plans for Valentine’s day?”
Me: pic.twitter.com/zpNUyrav9A
— Jack Mull (@J4CKMULL) January 24, 2018
Every Valentine’s Day card in history was signed on the dashboard on a car in a Walgreen’s parking lot.
— Bill Dixon (@BillDixonish) February 3, 2016
the best thing about being single on valentine’s day is I get to eat all 2 dozen of these roses by myself
— thomas violence (@thomas_violence) February 14, 2015
Two types of people on Valentine’s Day pic.twitter.com/mZHjdLjTUZ
— T-Foots (@t_foots) February 1, 2016
me leaving instagram comments on Valentine’s Day
pic.twitter.com/4r094qHH1s— GirlReligion (@girlreligionco) January 21, 2018
Me on Valentine’s Day: pic.twitter.com/z5sVawLmhh
— feelstagram 🐶 (@feelstagram_) January 25, 2018
Me on Valentine’s day: ” This is a money making scheme we shouldn’t be practicing it!”
Also me on Valentine’s day: pic.twitter.com/AzoItxULvz
— Nikesh Kooverjee 🚗 (@NikeshKooverjee) January 29, 2018
That moment you realize your milk has a Valentine’s Day date & you don’t… pic.twitter.com/KX2S83bK8s
— Curtis Lepore (@curtislepore) February 1, 2016
“What are your plans for Valentine’s day?”
Me: pic.twitter.com/Agoi5YyV6P— Ivycado 🥑✨ (@IvyKungu) February 12, 2017
If you’re single on Valentine’s Day you’re allowed to have two dinners right?
— Mitchell Davis (@mmitchelldaviss) February 6, 2016
Valentine’s Day really separates the men from the boys, and then separates me from both of them in a third location
— Megan Amram (@meganamram) February 15, 2015
— helen (@helen) August 20, 2017
My Valentines day reservation is Done pic.twitter.com/fzaRz1hteX
— خان❣ (@Maaahyyy) January 27, 2018
Yup that just about sums it up #singleprob pic.twitter.com/D2JlIdSOS8
— Single Probs (@singleprob) February 17, 2014
me realizing i have a crush on someone pic.twitter.com/dPuNUnIm6g
— Hannah Giorgis (@ethiopienne) March 9, 2017
Last minute festival shopping pic.twitter.com/M482osWqGG
— dorku (@Dorkstar) February 14, 2018
Wow, look at the Edible Arrangement I got for Valentine’s day. So beautiful pic.twitter.com/sTAOyyj0OL
— Cool Eric (@OBiiieeee) February 14, 2015
Fun Valentine’s Day Tip: For the cost of a dozen red roses, you could get a pitcher of beer and a dozen wings. Prob even pay for parking too
— Jenny Johnson (@JennyJohnsonHi5) February 4, 2016
Can’t wait for Valentines Day. I’m gonna run into as many restaurants as I can shouting “Knew I’d find you here! You bastard” then run out.
— 🌈🌈Ruthe Phoenix🌈🌈 (@RuthePhoenix) January 24, 2015
Hope everyone who uses the word “bae” has a terrible Valentine’s Dae 💘
— Gloria Fallon (@GloriaFallon123) February 14, 2015
Let’s all take a moment of silence this Valentine’s Day to think about the couples who started dating end of January
— Mike Ginn (@shutupmikeginn) February 14, 2015
I told my wife her Valentine’s Day gift this year is the privilege of being married to me. She’s so happy she still hasn’t stopped crying.
— James Breakwell, Exploding Unicorn (@XplodingUnicorn) February 14, 2013
Valentines Day pic.twitter.com/GSAPTFNgEv
— Sam Reece (@SamReece) January 23, 2018
catch me on valentines day wearing a flowy top, crossfaded off allergy meds and a glass of wine, twirling to fleetwood mac in my bedroom mirror
— jaboukie (@jaboukie) January 25, 2018
This Valentines give her what she really wants: a throne forged from the bones of her enemies & a relentless reign of terror over the masses
— Jeff Wysaski (@pleatedjeans) February 13, 2015
Sometimes I think ‘maybe I should go out and meet people’ and then I remember I don’t really like people or leaving my house. #whyimsingle
— Tammy Watson (@Tamashay) February 9, 2017
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Emotional Infidelity vs. Cheating I recently was on a national TV show discussing cheating on Facebook. So I thought it would be useful to write a post on emotional infidelity. What’s the difference between Emotional and Physical Infidelity? In emotional infidelity a partner gives another person their heart, their intimate thoughts, their caring and appreciation. […]
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Overcoming Abandonment Fears Do you ever feel like you have to be perfect or you’ll be rejected? Do you sometimes panic when you don’t receive a quick response to a text, email or voicemail? What about not speaking your truth in relationships because you think it might drive your partner away? Do you tend to […]
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Soulmate Talking: The Power of Speaking Your Truth Ever wonder how happy couples communicate with each other? What is the secret of their soulmate talking behavior? Well, I just got an email from Ellen, in Iowa who’s feeling frustrated in her relationship with her live-in boyfriend: Dear Dr. Diana, Sometimes I feel like it is […]
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Does Mr. Right Exist? Does Mr. Right Exist? Of course, Mr. right exists but you have to find him. Learn the secrets of finding Mr. Right from best selling relationship expert Dr. Diana Kirschner. When you’re done watching this video, please go to the finding the one blog to read articles on finding Mr. Right, […]
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Do Smart Men Marry Smart Women Or do they prefer younger, sexy, and non-threatening partners? Does your ambition and intelligence intimidate guys that you date? These questions are on the minds of every successful single woman. So, what do my readers and clients think? In a recent poll, the majority of them answered the question: […]
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Over our 26 years of marriage, it has been a very male led relationship. He earns a lot more. He takes decisions about where we go out to eat, going to cinema, etc. He makes financial decisions. He disciplines the children. Etc. Over the years we have tried a lot of different sexual things. He
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Our ability to observe the workings of our mind, challenge our stories, and see what is really happening is a major predictor of happiness.
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Divorcees are more likely to suffer from mental health illnesses, such as depression, suicidal thoughts, and PTSD after the breakdown of a marriage – despite how amicably the marriage may end.
Marriage break-ups are very frequently followed by mental health complications – high-stress levels and depression to name but a few, with some divorcees battling with suicidal thoughts and post-traumatic stress disorder in the most extreme cases.
Separated couples are likely to experience a collapse in their mental health and wellbeing, which after distressing divorce proceedings is understandable.
Even an amicable, friendly separation is not enough to prevent harm to the mental health of those involved.
It isn’t just separating parents who face personal problems after divorce, with research revealing that the children of divorcing parents are likely to do worse at school than their peers with parents who haven’t separated.
In recent years, a rising number of divorce cases have featured either one or both spouses reporting that they are struggling with their mental wellbeing following their separation.
In fact, stress, depression, and anxiety are now commonplace in a considerable number of divorce cases and present themselves and manifest in different ways. To some degree, it is now expected that divorcees will experience a collapse in their mental health throughout proceedings and the first few months of divorce.
However, with no-fault divorce, divorcees and their children experience only a fraction of the conflict of traditional divorce proceedings. Thanks to no longer needing to drag up the often emotional past and play the ‘blame game’.
No fault divorces don’t pit partners against each other in a bid to satisfy antiquated legal requirements.
However, no-fault divorce do spike the number of divorce proceedings as getting a divorce becomes easier.
Divorcees battling mental health problems such as anxiety, stress, depression, and PTSD don’t have to suffer alone, as there are numerous different resources and institutions that can help divorcees at difficult and distressing times.
Individuals need a comprehensive support network made up of family, friends, and counselors and should take advantage of the professional help available to them should they require it.
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Foster care provides family life and temporary care for children who cannot live with their parents. When their domestic problems have been resolved and their parents are equipped to take care of them, children often return home.
However, some children stay in foster care for a longer-term. Some move on, and live on their own, while others are adopted by other families who open their homes for them.
Foster care isn’t the place where youth offenders or juvenile delinquents go, though. Instead, again, it’s a place where children, whose parents cannot take care of them, for a host of reasons, stay. It can be arranged through social service or the courts.
But while its main goal is the reunification of a child to their birth parents, it may turn into an adoption – if it’s for the child’s best interest. And that makes things permanent.
Over half a million children are in foster care in the US alone. Many of them have been victims of prolonged neglect or repeated abuse.
They haven’t experienced a stable and nurturing home environment during their development years, which are supposed to be critical to their brain’s short- and long-term development as well as to their social skills.
In foster care, however, children don’t really have a good living condition. In fact, foster care living can cause them developmental, physical and mental health problems.
Unfortunately, even before entering foster, many of these children have unmet health and medical needs as well.
A few causes include drug or alcohol use during pregnancy, premature birth or early neglect is contributing to developmental delays among foster children.
Delay departments include a delay in achieving physical milestones, such as walking. They can also have communication delays, such as talking and formulating words and sentences in the manner that children their age do. Even if they face communication issues in the foster care setting, children still don’t get speech therapy that can help them overcome communication and language challenges.
As a result, they’re more likely than not to perform poorly at school and repeatedly receive poor grades.
All these things might have been brought about by the early influences they received on development and health.
In addition, foster children have a higher tendency to suffer from mental disturbances. These include poor social skills, anxiety, and depression.
They also exhibit negative and hostile behaviors, such as aggression and anger. As a result, foster children are using more mental health resources than those who aren’t in foster care. Substandard living conditions
Those in the foster system can also be subject to poor living conditions. For example, those placed in the foster system in the State of California are usually subjected to substandard conditions and lack of supervision. Many of them also receive inadequate health care and education.
What’s even worse is that some children can also die while under foster care protection, according to the same source.
Foster children also have attachment issues due to poor parenting they received in their first years. Such issues can lead to emotional disorders, including depression or physical issues, including the failure to thrive in society due to low self-esteem.
Many of them also find it hard to form attachments to anyone.
And if the child is moving very often, they will even find it hard to form any secure attachment.
Foster children with attachment problems can also be suspicious and distrustful. They might also find it hard to follow the rules. Some of them can also lack a feeling of guilt over bad behavior.
There are certain things that can be done to create a positive experience among children who should undergo a healing process in foster care.
They need therapy, such as speech for communication and language development, psychological support, education, and healthcare.
After all, foster care should always maximize the healing aspects that the children receive based on their needs and health conditions.
At a foster care system, a few areas that can help in creating a positive experience for a child towards the healing stage include assessment and guidance on gross motor skills, fine motor skills, and cognition. Other areas of focus should include language and speech function, emotional well-being, self-help abilities, coping skills, and social skills.
These are only some of the things that can be done in order to improve a child’s foster care experience. Definitely, these children need help and support, as they’re undergoing a difficult stage in their lives.
A team of professionals composed of caregivers, psychologists and speech pathologists, to name some, can contribute to form such a positive experience and give a foster child the healthcare he deserves.
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He Broke My Heart and Still Texts Me Have you ever wondered? Why is the guy who broke my heart still contacting me? How could he disappear after he was so totally into me? Why hasn’t he texted? Why does he pull away every time we get close? Was it just about the sex? How […]
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Marriage is always going to be a bit of a roller coaster no matter what. But it’s a relationship that will last through each and every one of your seasons of life.
You’ll go through good times, not so great times, and everything in between and it’s up to you and your partner to stick with one another to ride out the storms and enjoy the sunshine.
But if there is one singular stress that a lot of marriages break apart on the rocks over it has to be money.
Everyone has a unique relationship with finances all on their own, and blending two lives together – and potentially two totally different concepts of money – is always a bit of an uphill battle. At the same time, armed with the inside information we highlight for you below, you should be able to smooth out a lot of these sticky situations without much headache or hassle.
Let’s dive right in!
The most important thing you can do when you are looking to take care of your finances as a married couple is to get brutally honest about your economic situation as it sits right now.
You have to create an environment where both people can be upfront and honest about their financial mistakes and missteps, where everyone can talk about poor financial habits and bad decisions, and where you both come up with an understanding of where you sit financially right now.
The only way to move forward with a financial plan that actually works for your specific situation is to know the kind of situation you are both in, to begin with.
The very next thing you have to do once you better understand where you are financially right now is to figure out where all of your money is going, where it needs to go, and where it can be better allocated to grow so that it can support the kind of life you are looking to build with one another.
There isn’t a lot of excitement that goes into creating a budget and honestly the monotony of tracking each and every penny you spend can get a little bit tedious.
Thankfully, there are quite a few apps, software solutions, and services out there that automate most of this for you.
And if you both commit to sticking to the plan you’ll be able to take care a lot of the financial heavy lifting in your relationship.
Even the best plans are going to go a little bit sideways every now and again.
To combat those issues and to get out ahead of tiny problems before they become major money catastrophes you want to have regular “money checkups”. These money meetings are where you and your partner sit down every week, every two weeks, or (at the very longest) every month and go over the household finances.
The only things in life that get improved are the things that are constantly tracked and measured.
By having these regular money checkups you’ll both know exactly where you stand, will be able to course correct if things are getting a little bit out of hand, and will be able to better plan out your success – and hopefully accelerate it, too.
Maybe the biggest money challenge out there is simply not having enough to do everything you’d like to do, and the cold, hard reality of the situation is most people working a regular old 9 to 5 aren’t going to be able to generate the kind of income they need from that job to lead the kind of life they were hoping to.
Whether you decide to create a side hustle that generates a little bit of passive income on the side, put your money into investments that have every opportunity to grow your money while you sleep, or – the best idea with the most control – to build a business (ideally with your partner) is entirely up to you.
Even if you are struggling financially you can always get a small business loan that can help you get a business running no matter what your situation is.
But climbing into the driver seat of your income gives you a lot more control over your cash flow and can make your financial future happen a lot faster than it would have otherwise.
The second big money problem that cripples more marriages than almost any other has to be the existence of bad debt.
Any debt – ANY debt – that doesn’t help you generate more income in the short or long-term is considered to be a bad debt, particularly for depreciating assets.
Bad debts like- expensive cars or high interest-rate credit card charges.
You want to kill off that bad debt just as quickly as humanly possible, paying down big chunks of it at the time so that you are able to save more and get out from underneath the thumb of these creditors.
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Check out the video below and then read the blog on how to deal with the non-committal guy. Is He a Non-Committal Guy? Perhaps you feel you met the One. Yet he disappears soon after. Has he met someone else? Why is he running hot and cold? Do you have a future together? You wonder, […]
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Fighting Fairly is Linked with Being in a Happy Couple When things go south in your relationship and you start arguing, it can easily cascade downhill and feel like all is lost. There is nothing as painful as the disappointment and upset we feel when our love relationship collapses into nothing but accusations, blame, angry […]
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The last four weeks leading up to your wedding can be a mix of emotions. Happy, excited, nostalgic, but mostly, stressed and nerve-racked.
It’s the last chance you have to wrap up those final touches on all of your carefully planned details.
But, since you already have everything booked, ordered, and altered…what exactly is left to do? Believe it or not, there is still plenty of t’s to be crossed and I’m to be dotted during the few short weeks before your wedding.
Let me share with you a list of last-minute tasks that you aren’t already thinking of. Plan for these things NOW and save yourself from any last minute “uh-oh’s”!
Think of week four as a time to confirm everything with your vendors and the details that will affect them.
For example – Are you missing any RSVPs?
This will likely affect your venue and rental setup, as well as catering order if you have to switch your guaranteed guest count. If there is anything that is missing or needs to be changed with vendors, four weeks should leave plenty of time to take care of it.
Now that your vendors have what they need from you, it’s time to finalize the details that you will be responsible for.
These are things that don’t necessarily need to get nailed down months ahead of time, but you shouldn’t save for the last minute.
By week 2, all of your outsourced wedding needs should be completely good to go.
If your wedding date creeped up and surprised you tomorrow, you should be able to at least walk down the aisle in a well-fitted dress.
This is the time to organize and prepare personal items so that your actual wedding week will be a breeze and pure bliss.
You’re just days out from your wedding! This time is all about YOU!
All the planning is finally done and you’re simply getting yourself ready for the big day. This week should be stress-free and full of celebration.
Sit back, relax, and enjoy everything you’ve conquered! Now, just to wrap things up…
That’s it! You’re done! The whole wedding planning experience can seem like an unending checklist of to-do.
Use this guide to start your list and be sure you aren’t missing ANYTHING during the last few weeks before your big day.
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If you are planning to get married any time soon, then the budget of the wedding might be a big issue for you.
You might be wondering how to organize a cost-effective wedding without compromising on the quality of the ceremony. If you want to have a great wedding within a limited or low budget, it is important for you to have a very clear idea about how much money you can spend.
This is especially true if there are multiple funding parties.
You can spend as much money on your wedding as you want. It could be an exorbitant amount or could be absolutely minimal. But, the ultimate point is to have a decent wedding ceremony without burning holes in your pocket.
The first step towards planning a cost-effective wedding is to plan your budget systematically and realistically. In this way, you can save a lot of careless spending and can canalize your existing funds much more effectively.
Here are some tips that are going to help you plan a beautiful wedding within a limited budget.
If the parents are paying for your wedding ceremony, then have a talk with them about the monetary issues right at the beginning.
It is important for you to know how much money they can spend. They might tell you that they are going to pay for certain things like the flowers or the food. They can also have certain preferences of how you should spend the money.
Misinformation and misconception can lead to undue and extravagant expenditure, causing a lot of tension later.
So, for organizing a cost-effective wedding, you need to consult all the funding parties and have a perfect idea about the limits of expenditure.
If you are aware of your financial constraints right from the beginning, then you can plan a beautiful cost-effective wedding by distributing the money consistently on every aspect of the ceremony.
This will also help you to prioritize.
You cannot possibly curtail the essential services, and you would not want to compromise on certain things that both you and your fiancé want badly. So, find out those fancy things which are redundant.
Some people give very expensive gifts to the wedding guests as token or memorabilia. But alternately, a heartfelt ‘thank you’ card can be more special, intimate, and cheap.
The importance of planning a budget can hardly be overstated. If you do not have a budget, then the money just keeps on slipping from your hand through impulsive and whimsical purchases and unorganized expenditure.
If you have a budget, then you will think twice before buying an expensive wedding cake or dress. Instead, you can spend your energy looking for great choices within your budget. Having a budget does not mean you will never overshoot it.
So, you can have a buffer fund kept separately for the extra expenditure.
A cost-effective wedding does not mean an inferior wedding.
It means better planning and utilization of your financial resources to have an organized and neat wedding ceremony. If you are thinking of how to plan a cheap wedding, then do not feel unduly concerned or pressurized about it.
It is very much possible to have a great wedding on a small budget. You just have to use your resources better and use innovative ideas of cost-cutting.
If you are wondering about how to plan a cheap wedding, then keeping the guest list small might help.
You can make an initial draft.
There will be some people whom you can afford not to invite in your wedding reception. You can call them later at a private dinner party and so on. Many people do not invite all their office colleagues to their wedding. They have an informal celebration later.
This is a very good way of cost-cutting.
But, it is important that you make your guest list very carefully and do not meet out preferential treatment to the same category of people.
If you are equally close to all your neighbors but cannot invite a few of them, it is better that you do not invite any of them to your wedding ceremony. In this way, they will understand your constraint and will not feel snubbed.
Another good way of keeping the guest list small is by issuing an invitation to the couples instead of the whole family. You can have your invitation cards addressed as Mr. and Mrs. (invitee). In this way, you can cover a lot of your acquaintances but at the same time, your guest list will not go out of your hand.
If you are worried regarding how to plan a cheap wedding, then you have to adopt certain cost-cutting measures.
A smaller guest list means you can save a lot on the catering, the food, the drinks, the venue etc. It will also be more stress-free and intimate for you and your family and chances are you will enjoy your wedding more.
Many people also spend quite a lot of money on buying a very expensive wedding favors for their guests.
Wedding favors are meant to be memorabilia or token from your wedding.
If you are thinking of how to plan a cheap wedding, you do not need to be very extravagant with those. Instead, a more innovative and personal wedding favor can impress your guests.
The internet is full of ideas regarding wedding favors within a limited budget, and there are online shopping portals that are going to offer you great deals.
One good way of having classy wedding favors within a limited budget is to go for personalized items. This could be personal mints, pens, mugs and anything that will suit your budget.
These things look very special and cost surprisingly less.
Some people also use homemade stuff as wedding favors. You can make innovative banners with your names on it and distribute it amongst your guests.
Your concerns regarding how to plan a cheap wedding can be put to rest by following these simple steps.
However, if you are planning to do something innovative, you have to work harder for attaining perfection.
But if you can pull it off, your wedding will only be low on cost but high on innovation, warmth, and entertainment.
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A wedding is a special time and a day that will be forever remembered.
There are a lot of wedding traditions that can be followed, depending on your preference and your heritage. Many traditions are followed without even realizing them, such as picking out engagement and wedding rings and proposals.
So, it makes sense that many people continue to follow traditions throughout the wedding day, the reception, and even into the honeymoon.
Wedding traditions
Many traditions have stemmed from North American roots.
The bridesmaids at a wedding are supposed to distract any evil spirits or entities away from the bride. The bridesmaids would wear bright colors and stay surrounding the bride dressed in white, so the spirits could not get to her. It was also thought to keep any bad luck from happening to the bride.
This is also a tradition that almost every couple follows. It stems from an ancient Rome custom of sealing every bargain and contract with a kiss.
Those who enter into the contract of marriage seal the deal with a kiss at their wedding, as well.
Flowers are another wedding tradition, yet most people do not realize their symbolism.
Flowers are the symbol of new life and fertility.
They were traditionally meant to ensure the bride could get easily pregnant. While many flowers may be seen as simply decorative, certain ones hold specific meanings.
Many people wonder why a bride should wear something blue. This stems from ancient Israel, when the bride-to-be would always wear a blue ribbon to signify the hope of fertility.
Today, many brides choose to discreetly wear something blue, even undergarments, to continue this tradition.
Wedding reception traditions
North American traditions are not just limited to the church, they can also continue well into the reception and honeymoon.
For years, people have tied long ropes full of tin and aluminum cans to the back of a newlywed’s car.
This has been a very popular way to see the newly married couple off. Also, it is yet another tradition meant to keep any evil spirits well away from the couple by scaring them off with the noise.
Tossing rice was an old tradition that was followed for decades at millions of weddings.
Traditionally, throwing rice at the couple would be done as they walk out of the church together to start their new life. It symbolizes the hopes of fertility and an abundance of food for the new couple.
However, in recent years, it has been deemed dangerous to throw rice because of the risk to birds and small animals that eat it. Many wedding parties now blow bubbles at the couple or throw handfuls of confetti to replace rice.
There are still many traditions that can make your wedding special, even well into the reception hall.
The wedding cake tradition of sharing the very first piece between the newlyweds also comes from the Romans. They believed that those who shared cake together would create a unique bond.
Additionally, cakes were to be made from wheat, another symbol of fertility and union. Also, since cake is sweet, this symbolized the hope of sweetness in a couple’s life together.
Throwing the garter is another tradition that can help make your wedding day very special.
This is thought to be one of the oldest traditions from the Dark Ages when it was normal for friends and family to accompany the couple to their marriage bed to ensure their safety.
Before they left, the bridal party would take turns throwing the garter at the nose of the groom. Whomever it landed on would be the next to marry.
This tradition eventually ended up being played out during the wedding reception, except only the bride throws it over her shoulder to those behind her.
Wedding night traditions
The night of the wedding is another time that many wedding traditions come into play.
Most of the readers are pretty much aware of the common tradition that involves carrying the newly married woman over the threshold of the home. This is now done to welcome the bride into the home, and as a romantic gesture and promise of love on the groom’s part.
The tradition stems, however, from the groom stealing his bride from whatever tribe she was in, and was many times forced to carry her away kicking and screaming.
A lesser known wedding night tradition is known as the “salmon leap.”
Supposedly, this was the way that a man joined his new bride for their first night in their marriage bed. The groom started out by crouching on the floor and then springing into the bed with his wife in one single leap.
The point was to imitate a spawning salmon that fights and swims his way up the stream in order to spawn.
Last, but not least, the honeymoon is one tradition that will help make your wedding as memorable as possible.
An old Irish tradition is said to have been one where the bridal party and guests were permitted to harass the newlyweds long into the night, so they did not get any time alone.
Some stories say this went as far as to “kidnap” the bride away from her husband.
The honeymoon may have developed as a way to get away quickly to a place where the couple could relax and enjoy one another’s company alone. Today, taking a honeymoon is a well-followed tradition and one that can be easily tailored to every individual couple’s wants and desires.
There are many ways of getting married.
Whether you choose a traditional church ceremony, marriage at a friend’s house, on the beach, or even a quick civil service, you are undoubtedly following a few traditions along the way.
Make your day special by researching the ones that mean something to you, your partner, and your heritage, and have the wedding of your dreams.
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No relationship is all sunshine, but two people can share an umbrella and survive the storm together.
This adage is particularly true in marriages.
Regardless of whether you are married to someone you have courted for long or in a traditional arranged marriage typical to oriental cultures, living with someone with different beliefs and habits can prove an uphill task.
Marriage requires a lot of understanding on the part of both spouses and a certain degree of compromises too. You need to accommodate some likes, dislikes, and lifestyles of your partner while expecting them to reciprocate. Thankfully, there are different, time tested and proven ways to strengthen your marriage against storms of life.
Here we look at the five best ways that can help strengthen your married life, regardless of your culture or location.
5 ways to strengthen your marriage
A lot has been said about strengthening your marriage by belief in a god or some higher power and spirituality.
But here, we look at things that do cause avoidable disturbances in any marriage.
Money ranks as the number one enemy of a stable marriage.
The State of Finances in the American Household, a study conducted by Ramsey research with 1,072 adults reveals, most arguments among spouses occur due to debts. The study also reveals that one-third of all marriages in the US start with debts.
This scenario is not peculiar to the US.
Worldwide, squabbles between spouses over money matters is billed as the greatest contributor to storms in marriages.
The reason being couples are wary about discussing their financial issues with their spouses. Even worse, others tend to conceal their real income from the partner wherein there are still others, who earn more try and dominate the spouse that does not earn or has lower income.
You can strengthen your marriage from storms of life that occur due to money-related issues by being transparent and completely honest with the spouse about family finances.
Jealousy and doubts over your partner can cause severe storms in marriage.
This occurs because a spouse- female or male- may be having a doubting nature or is overly possessive. Such women and men falsely believe their partner is cheating and has extra-marital affairs. Yet others imagine their spouse continues to be in contact with an ex. This can fuel severe storms in your marriage.
Understandably, some people will be more attracted to your husband or wife. This is usually due to their friendly and outgoing nature that attracts people to seek friendship. Such people seldom look for sexual relationships with your spouse. Most doubts and jealousy over a spouse are baseless and lack solid grounds.
If you or your spouse have jealous or doubting nature, the best way to strengthen your marriage against storms is to be open about your friendships. Assure your spouse you have no intentions of entering into extramarital affairs or are eying someone for carnal relations.
This requires some effort but will prove worthwhile to strengthen your marriage.
Social media, dating websites, and cheaper foreign travel are causing a rise in the number of interracial marriages worldwide.
This phenomenon is not restricted to developed countries only. PEW Research estimates that 12 percent of couples worldwide in 2013 were interracial. By 2018 end, this figure could well hover around 20 percent of interracial couples worldwide.
Whether you are married to a person from a different race but of the same nationality or a foreigner altogether, it is vital to understand the cultural, educational, and economic background of your spouse.
Nowadays, a lot of women and men find spouses through reputed matrimonial websites. In such cases, the bride and the groom can be from different cultures. This makes it important to understand each other’s background.
People of different ethnicities behave differently in various situations.
Though your spouse would be acting according to her or his culture, it can be misunderstood as apathy or even avarice, depending upon the situation. You can quickly strengthen your marriage from storms in life caused by cultural differences by learning more about the ethnicity of your spouse, its customs, traditions, economic situation, and education.
Thankfully, a lot of resources that educate us about different cultures and traditions are available on the Internet. Refer to these to gain vital insights into your spouse’s thinking and behavioral patterns.
Majority of spouses seldom speak about problems at work, unpleasant situations they encounter or even illnesses to their partners.
This leads to a dangerous buildup of pent up feelings and emotions. We falsely believe that discussing these issues will dent our respect in the eyes of the spouse.
Practically though, things work differently.
Speaking openly about your personal or office problems and situations in life have therapeutic benefits. Such talk relieves you from the burden of being pent up. Also, it instills a sense of confidence in your spouse that you trust them and their judgment.
Often, the spouse can comfort you or offer solutions you could never have imagined.
Keeping problems to yourself and resulting pent up feelings cause storms in married life.
This occurs because we tend to express our angst on the spouse or household. Merely being open about these problems and situations effectively strengthen your marriage against storms in life.
Most married couples nowadays relegate family ties with siblings and parents to the backseat of their life. This can prove very disastrous, especially when you encounter storms in marriage.
You and your spouse will have nobody to turn to or confide in when needed.
Such self-inflicted isolation from siblings and parents means you may have to confide to strangers or a counselor.
Hence, the best way to strengthen your marriage against storms in life is to maintain strong bonds with closest relatives of your spouse. Visit them when possible or host family get-togethers for your and spouse’s relatives. And if that is not possible, maintain regular contact by phone and email.
Social media also helps in bonding with relatives.
Thus, when you encounter storms in your marriage, it is possible to seek help if necessary from relatives and tide over any crises. Resolve any differences between families by bringing them together sometimes.
It is only when a relationship is working that friction and storms occur. Instead of circumventing them or fleeing such adverse situations, it is best to face them.
Use these five simple ways to strengthen your marriage against storms in life. Whether marriages are made in heaven or not is debatable. But making them work by weathering storms typical to matrimony need down to Earth and practical solutions.
While religion does provide some answers, others require a more worldly approach.
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