Why Do People End Relationships By Disappearing? – Ghosting

Breakups are a part of every relationship. Some breakups tend to be more amicable than the others whereas some breakups are acrimonious or just plain awkward and very uncomfortable. How great would it be if you could end a relationship and at the same time avoid the hassle of ending a relationship? Like cutting a partner out of your life as quickly, decisively and with as little effort as possible? If this idea appeals to you, then you may be prone to the world of “ghosting.”

Ghosting is a new name for an old relationship breakup tactic

Ghosting is a term that has emerged in today’s culture. It is merely a new name for an old-relationship breakup tactic that is known as “avoidance” in the literature of psychology. In ghosting, you just disappear from your significant others live.

To ghost, someone means to ignore all their attempts to contact you-you don’t answer any of their text messages, emails, calls or Facebook messages. You let their calls go to voicemail, and you place their number on the block list so that you do not receive any messages from them; leaving your partner thinking if you are even alive or not.

To disappear into the ether like a phantom leaving your ex to wonder for themselves if they have been dumped is what ghosting is all about. But why do people who wish to end relationships do so by disappearing?

There are many reasons why people prefer ending their relations by choosing to disappear. Some common reasons for ghosting are mentioned below, so keep on reading to find out.

Here’s why people resort to ghosting as a means to end the relationship

1. Easy way out

It’s no surprise that breakups are incredibly awkward. You have to sit across from a person who you were saying “I love you” last month, you have to listen to them cry, and you have to explain to them the reason why the relationship won’t work out. They might ask all the awkward question such as “Is it how I eat? Or how I dance? Or how I am in bed?” and no matter how hard you’ll want to say yes to those questions, you won’t be able to.

Ghosting, however, saves you from all this drama. You no longer have to prepare for an “It’s not you, it’s me” speech or give them any more reason to be heartbroken. This method of breakup is more convenient, simple and an easy way out which is why people prefer it.

2. Afraid Of confrontation

A lot of people who decide to break up tend to contemplate their actions and decisions before carrying them out. The first and foremost thought that a person feels is guiltiness, and due to this, most people who tend to break up don’t want to be confronted with regards to their action.

These people are so embarrassed over their decisions that they tend to try and avoid the accusations and drama that follows after a breakup. To prevent the truth being thrown on their faces, they decide to take the easy road and just disappear.

3. Decrease the pain

This is one of the reasons that most people give when asked on why they ghosted their partners instead of going through a proper breakup. This is one of the most selfish and idiotic reason because most people prefer being told the truth on their faces instead of being ghosted.

Being ghosted is a kick in the stomach and is also one of the most cowardly steps to cope out of hurting your partner; and instead of feeling bad, these people tend to put on a selfless rode and pretend that they are doing a good deed by not putting their partners through the pain of confrontation.

4.  One person is more attached than the other 

In an early relationship or a new relationship, there can be a very wide range of attachments. After a string of long and romantic text messages, one or three dates, one person might feel more fully invested in the relationship than the other.

This may lead to the other person thing “I will ride this one out since I have no major intentions in this relationship,” and this will lead to ghosting.

Grow up and give the other person some closure

Ghosting might be perceived as a form of emotional abuse, and it brings with it all the psychological and emotional repercussions attached to it after experiencing this. This is an extremely traumatizing experience because you might leave the other person in the air hanging without any closure or any explanation as to what and why you are breaking up.

The person who gets ghosted might keep building up scenarios in their head as to why they were ghosted and this will not only affect them physically but also mentally, and they might just never be the same again. This form of breaking up can affect the person’s self-esteem and their dignity and may affect the ghosted person’s future relationship. So instead of ghosting, be mature, grow up and give the other person some closure.

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