So I've been dating "Chris" for about 2 months. I'm a little bit younger than him so I feel like I expressed to him very clearly that I'm not ready for any sort of commitment. Before this all happened I really liked him and to be very honest I told him he was the type of guy I could see myself committing to "some day."
So Chris loves Instagram, I mean loves it. We went to Coachella this year and I think he actually missed nearly everything because he had his face in his phone either taking selfies, stories, or videos or checking the various hashtags. I was really there to see Cardi B and my phone was stolen early on so I really wasn't keeping up with what he was posting. So keep in mind Coachella was a few weeks ago, even earlier in our relationship.
I just now went through his IG and there are dozens and dozens of posts of him and me all with little cutsie animated texts that say things like "she is my soul" and "soulmates 4eva!" and the absolute worst was a gif of that movie Jerry McGuire where he says "you complete me" and the actress says "shut up" (maybe some girls like that kind of stuff but it's not me at all). There are probably 5 posts a week of him and I, some I remember him taking, some not that all have things like "BAE" and "GOAT" tagged in them. At first he got mad at me because his feelings were hurt I wasn't keeping up with his Instagram. Then I said to seriously pump the brakes and I'm not obligated to ever check his social media and that I was really not cool with being called his soul mate. He threw the line in my face that I said I would commit to him someday. I said that's not what I said, I said he was the type of guy I could MAYBE commit to someday. He then started crying (I hate the term ugly crying, but he was UGLY crying, complete with snot and sniffles). It seriously reminded me of my little brother when my dad got rid of his ex-box--i.e. something you never want to think about a guy who you haven't slept with yet.
I felt bed so I tried to calm him down and say it's no big deal and then he got some nerve back and said that social media is very important to him and he "needs" me to be involved in that aspect of his life. I said I would try harder and left back for my apartment.
But I keep reliving that scene over and over of him crying, I didn't really sleep last night because I felt like I'm in over my head and that I don't ever want to be committed to look at Instagram and be judged for liking/not liking posts and making comments. I think I could go my whole life and not be mentioned as soulmate on social media and be very happy with it. My last IG post was from spring break, which I should probably take down anyways because my swimsuit is probably not appropriate when I'm looking for a job. I just don't care that much about it.
Is this a serious red flag for this relationship?
**tl;dr: my boyfriend tags me on IG with lots of things that first of all, I don't really like and secondly imply that our relationship is much further along than it is. I told him I didn't like and he started crying and he "needs" me to be involved in his social media life. I agreed I would try harder but I've slept on it and I see red flags. Is this correct?"
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