He told his friend he wants to sleep with other women...

Hey everyone, I’m on mobile and I just found some pretty devastating stuff on my SO’s phone.

Sorry for the long post

Some context:

I’m a shit gf for looking through his phone. I fully understand that. I’m not proud of myself for it and I full well knew what I was doing was inherently wrong and a major invasion of privacy.

My SO is currently gone for work. He left his phone with me while he was gone for reasons. He’s been keeping his phone attached to him lately, more so than usual. Screen flipped down, I notice when I send things the notifications don’t pop up, etc. I knew this was a moment I’ve been waiting for.

So I looked. I shouldn’t have looked. We’ve been together for 6 months and very recently moved to a new state together for his job. I just graduated from college so the change wasn’t a big deal for me.

He and his best friend were discussing me coming with him for the move. This is how it went:

(Discussing the move) SO: “Einhornschlag’s gonna come with me. Leap of faith lol.” BF: “WOW! Good for you man! Congrats! Big move in more than one way.” SO: “I only had one reason why I wouldn’t want Einhornschlag to come with me, and that was the same reason I didn’t want ex to come with me either. I regretted that deeply for a long period of time and promised myself I wouldn’t make that same mistake twice.” BF: “What was the one reason?” SO: “I wanted to fuck other chicks.” BF: “If you feel strongly about her, might as well go for it. Only way it can work is if you go for it.”

That was basically it for that exchange.

So far this year, he’s been gone a LOT for training. He was going out to clubs regularly with his friends and drinking. I found another bit between he and a friend about wanting to smash some chick next to him, but not wanting to cheat on me. He then goes into details about how much he loves Latino women and how his ex was Latino and it was a wild ride. I’m Caucasian.

I obviously fucked up by reading his messages. I’m smitten with this man. I left my whole life 1,000+ miles away to pursue a life with him. I’m crushed right now and I don’t know what to do.

I can’t call my mom, my dad, my grandma, everyone is asleep and I have no friends here yet. I don’t have anyone to turn to right now.

TL;DR: I went through my SO’s phone and found out he wants to have sex with other people but pulled the same thing with his ex and lost her for good. I’m crushed and I have no one to turn to.

I want to go home. I want to pack enough stuff and leave right now. He comes home on Friday and we have very limited contact through email currently. What the hell do I do?

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